I wasn't brought up JW. But my husband's mom to this day says, "Half of us are there to test the other half."
My husband's innocent reply: "So really only HALF of us are going to make it??????
Another condescending thing she likes to say about people who are inactive or weak, "Mom, how's so and so doing?"
"Oh, they're not doing anything."
"I mean, how are they doing healthwise, workwise, etc?"
"Well, it doesn't matter because they're not serving Jehovah whole souled. They hardly ever come to the meetings bla bla bla....."
"But they're such nice people. Such good parents, etc."
"Doesn't matter. Nope! They're missing out on sharing in the preaching work...."
circles round and round and round we go.