Joker, that may be easier said than done. At any rate, I'm going to take to heart JT's advice. It bears repeating:
for those of you who are still jw, take your time, don't feel a need to rush one way or the other- it is a "Process"
the most important one is called Confirmation, as has been pointed out here over and over almost every jw has FORBIDDEN QUESTIONS and the way the org is structured one is made to push those questions into the back ground- as i used to tell folks
if you spend more time in service, meeetings and reading the publicastion you will not have time for such FOOLISH QUESTIONS - of course that never really addressed the quetion, merely pushed it into the background
so for many coming here merely CONFIRMS what many have had as concerns for YEARS-
ONCE the confirmation takes place then it is a matter of deciding do i want to continue being involved with something that consumes up my entire life where all my hopes and dreams and goals have to be put on the backburner for what i know now will never take place
i think of all the dr and lawyers and scienctist, actors, musican, folks who would play in orchestras, etc who will NEVER COME OUT OF THE JW due to believing that to pursue such things NOW is wrong, but wait till the new order then you can study about the different birds and so forth
i think of all of us here many who have literally PUT OUT LIVES ON HOLD waiting for a new system that was promised over 130yrs ago-
so for folks who come here and get the confirmation they then have to make a choice and it takes time
some leave right away for me it took 3 yrs - in 1995 with the generation change i started heading out the door- in 98 i turned in my Flock book and my wife and i have never crossed the sill of a Hall since
we started new careers, moved, built a home and now back in college to get the degrees we gave up to SEEK FIRST THE KINGDOM - pio/bethel
for some they will not be able to move or go back to collge, but regardless the freedom of knowing that now my wife and YOU TOO can lay in the bed on Sunday Morning in your "Drawers" and read the Washington Post
man there is no greater freedom
