Just curious about something that I am trying to understand in my marriage. When I am not at work I am usually home. My husband is home all day due to being retired due to a work disability. Very seldom are either of us out doing something without the other.
Most of the time we spend at home is spent in the following manner. If I am not in the kitchen fixing meals, I am usually in the front living room reading on the couch or in my little office playing on the computer or on the Internet. He spends most if not all of his time in the family room watching TV (lots of western re-runs, some Sci-Fi channel, action-adventure, and war movies).
Last week we had this discussion:
The subject was raised by my husband that we aren't together that often.
I replied that we spend every evening together.
He meant doing things together.
So I asked him if he wanted to go out to movies, the pool hall, whatever?
No, it's just that I am always on the computer or reading. We should do more togetherness activities.
I said, well you're always watching TV. We could get some games, play cards, etc.
No. He thought I should come out and watch TV with him all night.
I told him I just don't think of watching TV as a togetherness activity.
He does.
I watch a few shows a week, but I have other interests and want entertainment that is more active than passive. I don't like sitting through reruns or frequent and long blocks of commercials.
Do all men feel this way, or just those addicted to TV? Do you other wives have this problem? Do you men really think TV is a togetherness activity? Is this a Mars/Venus thing? I want to understand where he is coming from on this so I can then work to find a compromise.
Tammy