A person can be gay & be a jw.....as long as they don't sexually act out. Been told that by elders for 30 years now, different congregations, different states.
I have three children - all xjw's, all living well, doing well, and much more content.
My middle child is 6'3" handsomely blond and gay. He's been living with the same man for going on 4 years now, and they're more adjusted than I am.
It irritates me NO END that they have two good incomes, two people who can use electrical tools and lift heavy things AND decorate beautifully. And they agree with me - they do it all well. Smugness. My other two kids are straight.....and I love all three dearly.
I knew my middle son (had gay tendencies) from the time he was around 4-6. My father was an evil, gay man. The man I first married had a mother who lived as a man after she turned 20. My favorite aunt is a militant gay.
When I was in therapy for other things, I was a jw and upset my son was gay. The psychiatrist asked about my family history and I told him the above. His mouth dropped open & then he said "And your upset that ONE of your children is gay??????"
My son & I share a good bond - and how we came to a compromise (even when I was a jw) was that we met for lunch every two weeks and talked about everything BUT religion & sex. We sent each other joke cards.......and our relationship survived. It was worth the effort on both our parts. He's my sunshine.
"I'd rather be black than gay because I wouldn't have had to tell my mother. She'd already know." author unknown
More than anything else, the thought of AIDS bothers me.
