by Funchback 41 Replies latest jw experiences
When I was still a "loyal" (i.e. deluded) elder, I upbraided my wanton daughter, warning her that she could be disfellowshipped
and none of her friends would ever talk to her again.
she replied:
"if they won't talk to me, they never really were my friends"
that stumped me -- she was right!
metatron
NEWWORLDSLACKER... You hang in there, too!
Shamus said:
They will get the hint soon enough when you just don't show up sooner rather than later... then you'll be "bad assosiation" and they will run away from you like someone with leprosy.
Hilarious, but so true!
SaintSatan: That is VERY disfunctional!
heathen said:
They probly just had one of their meetings where they go over the missing faces at the hall and to encourage members to contact the ones they know...
My thinking EXACTLY! My guess is there was a local needs talk that included the words: "Take a look around the Kingdom Hall. Do we notice any missing faces? Perhaps we can call them to tell them how much we miss them!"
Brian,
This thread about the special assembly day which was posted by truthseeker might explain why people are calling you.
My husband and I did not go round the bush,we did not give them time to say ,we missyou,that was done as quick as a flash.( they missyou at the meeting because that is the only time when the little sheeps come together in group),how sick how hypocrit they can be,there is no love this is another reason why I could not go to the meeting any longer,I did not want to be part anymore,enough is enough. ARANCIA
Funchback--- I have seen that kinda stuff before . It is pretty weird that people have to wait for someone else to suggest looking up others that are missing in action . I just for the life of me can't understand the mentality behind all the things that the jw do . I was never a member of the org. but I remember it took them about six months to bother asking what the problem was when I stopped making meetings and studying but at that point I wasn't willing to discuss the matter , I had made up my mind that there was just too much that I was being asked to accept that I didn't believe was truth .
I was just thinking that meetings are a social life for witnesses. When you think about all the time spent at meetings and field service each week, who has time to call or visit one another? My sister and her family ( husbands an elder ) got moved to another congregation because they needed more elders. When my mother found out, she burst into tears. My sister looked at her and said " Mom, I only live a mile away ". But to my mother, she may as well have lived 1000 miles away, because the meetings are where she saw her. First my mom has me leave the troof, then has the one daughter left move to a new hall. Poor thing!! God forbid she has to make an effort to see her children!
How true, they used to say to me "You've always got something interesting to say, we love your company...etc..." and all that bullsh*t, so if they really liked me how come they never came to see me when I had my nervous breakdown, and when I did not go at the meetings,, right you only count for them as an extra number at the meeting attendance.... nothing else or to make the group bigger in field service, or for the use of the car of course....
Its really discusting....
Lapuce
Sadelder has hit on an important failing of JW culture; on the one hand they bemoan the lack of ``famiilal closeness' and the ``coldness and aloofness" in so many congregations, yet the policies he describes are exactly the ones that inhibit a real bonding of the dubbies.
My wife still attends the meetings regularly and is rather well-liked, but she woud not be able to tell anyone where the majority of her JW co-congregants live, and that especially applies to the elders.
On the rare occasions she's invited to a social event, there is almost always an ulterior dimension to the get-together; i.e. a tupperware or trinket-selling party of some sort, with the attendant peer pressure to buy at least something.
Their wrongheaded refusal to use the Kingdom Hall and its grounds as a sort of community center for the JWs, is IMHO a tragic squandering of a resource ideally suited to fostering a communal, fraternal spirit
Stacy Smith said...
I said "let me remind you sisters that I haven't moved or changed my phone number"
You made me think of something. I was talking to a brother who hasn't been to the meeting regularly for at least a year but he still believes it's the "truth". His neighbor (who is also his uncle and is a JW at the same congregation as me) said to him regarding me: "I would call him but I just don't know what to say."
I think that statement sums up all the JWs in a nutshell. If you take them out of their JW mindset or if the surrounding scenario isn't at the Kingdom Hall, then they really do not know how to communicate. They have a fear that somehow they may contract the "apostate" disease if they come into contact with you outside of the Kingdom Hall. It's as if they feel like they are only immune to you if they see you at the Hall.
