I almost got slugged - not sure what to do next

by DanTheMan 32 Replies latest jw friends

  • DanTheMan
    DanTheMan

    I play soccer in an over-30 rec league on Sundays.

    Last Sunday the team we were playing had this dude that was playing very aggressively, yelling at the refs, his team, our team, the ball, etc. Generally making what should have been an enjoyable time for all into a tense occasion.

    He's one of those 5'3" guys with a bad temper and a motor that runs at 200 mph, a Napoleon type.

    Anyways, near the end of the game (we're up 2-0 at this point) he is trying to get the ball away from one of my teammates, a guy about twice his size. And for the umpteenth time during the game he goes sprawling to the ground and cries foul.

    As me and my teammate (the one who Napoleon just tangled with) are running up the field, I decided to open a can of smartass, so I ran up to my teammate, made very slight contact with him, and did a big comical trip and fall to the ground. It was funny. Mr. Bonaparte didn't find it amusing however.

    So he starts trying to start a fight with me - "imitate me to my face" he says about a dozen times. Now I'm one of the last guys to ever want to get into a fistfight with somebody - I'm a pretty low key, non-aggressive person. Plus, I'm no big guy either, and this guy's high energy and bad temper were a little scary. So I keep my cool and a fight is narrowly averted.

    I find out later that this guy is the Mayor's son. So that clears up the mystery of why the refs did absolutely nothing when this guy was starting sh*t with me.

    Of course this situation has my paranoia going through the roof. I don't know anything about this guy except for what I saw during that game, and what I saw wasn't good. There is a saying - "sports don't build character, they reveal it" - that applies here. I wonder if this guy is a real psycho and is determined to show me in some way or another that I smarted off to the wrong guy.

    Next week will be another game. We won't be playing his team, but he will be playing in the game before and likely will be there when I arrive for my game.

    3 weeks from now will be the tournament, which brings a possibility of playing his team again, where I wouldn't be surprised if I found myself on the receiving end of some dirty and viscious play. It was apparent that Napoleon's teammates are his "boys".

    I enjoy playing soccer, but it amazes me how seriously some people in these rec leagues take it. Part of me wants to go out and play again to show this turd that I'm not afraid of him. On the other hand, I don't enjoy playing soccer that much. And this guy being the mayor's son, it seems like he has a little bit of extra freedom in Bexley Ohio. Who knows, he may have forgot about it by now, but of course my paranoid imagination has been playing all kinds of lovely violent scenarios where this guy tries to seriously hurt me.

    What say you? Would you go back? Is this a battle worth fighting?

    *sigh* If it ain't one thing it's another.

  • Aztec
    Aztec

    Dan, I'd go right back and play. Guys like this are probably confrontational all the time and act like this with everyone. I'd be surprised if he even remembers you the next time you see him. Some bullies never grow up eh? Don't let a prick like him ruin your fun!

    I could always come down there and beat him up for you.

    ~Aztec

  • Soledad
    Soledad

    F him. go and play. have fun

  • joannadandy
    joannadandy
    He's one of those 5'3" guys with a bad temper and a motor that runs at 200 mph, a Napoleon type.

    Holy crap--you nearly got in a fight with my ex-boyfriend!

    This guy was a jerk...more people need to stand up to these little rabid dogs.

  • iiz2cool
    iiz2cool

    I wouldn't let one idiot stop me from doing what I want. Chances are he'll have forgotten about the incident by then, and won't start any trouble. Don't start something with him or provoke him. But if he starts something, you finish it. Nevermind who his father is.

    I've met too many assholes like that in my time and they make my blood boil!

    Walter

  • talesin
    talesin

    dan

    (echoes aztec and soledad)

    don't let him intimidate you - bullies come in all shapes and sizes - just because he is short (and all short guys don't have a Napoleon complex, just the A**HOLES) doesn't mean you can't stand up to him without looking like a bully

    from yr posts, I can tell you are a kind and thoughtful person ...

    don't be like me and let your kindness hold you back!!

    get out there and PLAY SOCCER (which, btw, I love)

    xo

    tal

    edited to say: btw, didja know that soccer players have the best butts? (heh, heh j/k) no, but it's true!

  • SixofNine
    SixofNine

    I'd let it go. He probably has. It isn't 6th grade (hopefully, lol, you did say over 30?), or even high school. Besides, I have a feeling you're more dangerous than you realize if you get righteously angry

  • DanTheMan
    DanTheMan

    hmmm....interesting....I expected the advice to go in the other direction (maybe because that's what I was hoping for!)

    I think what I'll do is go out the next couple of weeks and play. I may skip the tourney though. There is a "wilderness survival" weekend that I'm thinking about attending that weekend anyway.

    Aztec honey you can come down anytime!

  • Aztec
    Aztec

    Dan, you asked a bunch of exjw's who've spent ungodly amounts of time fighting for their freedom from a cult what they would do. I don't think the people around here are the cut and run type.

    I'd rather drag you up to Toronto with me.

    ~Aztec

  • Stacy Smith
    Stacy Smith

    I'd make sure the next soccer match is videotaped. Then if tough guy gets stupid you bring the tape to the head of the league alone with the head referee. Don't like a half grown turd chase you away from some fun.

    Maybe the league needs to check his ID, maybe he's still a stupid kid?

Share this

Google+
Pinterest
Reddit