Stinky,
I don't really post much to you, as we don't know each other personally like we do others. But I hope you don't mind me contributing...
The good and bad come and go. None of it sticks around. But it is much like Sixy said earlier:
I've long maintained that happiness is often a choice, or a sum of choices.
When things are tough, remember "This too shall pass". When things are good, remember to REALLY enjoy it...because "This too shall pass." It's all about just truly REALIZING the moment. Gotta take the bad with the good.
When Real Life is crazy busy and going really well, you don't see me much here either. This was a great place to begin my healing and enjoy comaraderie, which is necessary for the beginning of a recovery. But the tools I've learned here, I've taken out to the real world and am learning to apply them there. I come back here for an occasional post to either help or grab a hug, but I never look at this place to fix my life. It GIVES me stuff to fix it, but the fixing is up to me.
I don't know if this helps, but if nothing else, I understand the emotional roller-coaster. Still on it myself. But I'm just learning to enjoy the thrill and the fear at the same time...enjoying the moment...no matter what it is.
Love ya girl,
Andi