Thanks to everyone for your encouraging words. I rarely post, but I appreciate everyones concerns and hugs.
How come it still hurts?
by jesussaves 13 Replies latest jw friends
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sf
news on your book!Phantom stated pretty much what I was pondering.
He never was a 'friend'. You remember the drill on how we related to people...
on many conditions.
All along he had one condition that would surely be his justified reason for dumping you.
Now you know the drill better!
Respectfully, you expected him to be what he is trained not to be...
A True Friend.
{{{{ hugs }}}}
sKally
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rocketman
Wow, I had never thought about it that way before - replying that you were strong in leaving, not weak. Excellent reply!
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talesin
First things first - congrats on yr book deal, Tiffany!
Me: You won't read my book but you'll read and write pornographic poetry and watch porno movies. How ironic. JWs man.
Sounds like your friend may be feeling a guilty for (1) his involvement with porn and (2) his inability to do what you did - leave the WTBTS.
Maybe a bit of jealousy, too?
As JC said "forgive them, for they know not what they do".
Basically, to agree with a couple of others, he is ignorant. He does not know how to be a good friend, and is (most likely) struggling with his own issues.
As in most cases, when folks are hurtful, it's all about them, and their own problems/demons.
Sorry you've been hurt, it's been 25 years for me and the shunning still stings a bit at times.
rocketman,
Really? I've always felt that way about myself - striking out into the world, being totally ignorant of society seemed a courageous thing to me. I always felt my friends & brother took the easy way out by remaining dubs. I mean, it's easy to be a robot, with lots of like robots to associate with and reinforce that you are doing the 'right' thing. It's much harder (IMHO) to be alone in the world, and figure out how to make your own choices and decisions (and believe me, I'm still learning every day)!
Hugs,
talesin
news on your book!