10. Are we personally alert, so that no unrighteousness is found on our lips? For example, can our family members really trust what we say? Can our spiritual brothers and sisters in the congregation do the same? It would be easy to develop the habit of couching one?s words in terms that are technically accurate but misleading."
Hmmm Interesting..... I was thinking about this only this morning. I have two children who live with their witness mother, she was always dressing up the truth in such a manner as to present a false impression.
For example, during our divorce, after she had refused my contact with the children she had to give reasons to the authorities. Instead of telling the truth, ie she believed I was the son of Satan and therefore she did not wish me to have contact with the children, she came up with a whole load of irrelevant and misrepresented stuff.
My favourite was that I had encouraged my oldest child to play on a railway line, which cunjoured up images of electrified tracks and high speed trains. The reality was a disused rusted up line at a museum.
Anyway, the reason this is so fresh in my mind is that yesterday I visited my younger son's school and managed to look through his file, I found a few comments there that initially made me angry, then I realised that I have to play the sytem in the way she does.
I have written a letter to the school to redress the balance, the relevant extract highlights the problem....
The issues of concern are that in XXXXXX's notes there is a comment that my contact with the boys is strictly controlled and restricted. In addition there is a note that I should not have contact with the boys after school or collect them from the school.
Whilst I have no need or intention of collecting after school the tone of the comment I believe creates a false impression. I would like it noted that during our divorce, the boys mother refused access to the children, no valid reasons were given. I applied for a contact order which was granted. A couple of years ago I applied for an increase to this contact which was also granted. The note in your file is intended to suggest that there is a problem with my having access, whereas the courts found no problem and acted in my favour.
I believe the Mrs XXXXX?s motive for this stems from a policy of denying as much influence on the boys life as possible. I believe this to be due to the fact that she and her family are Jehovah?s Witnesses. Although I was brought up as a Witness, I left the faith around the time of our divorce. Jehovah?s Witnesses believe that they should have minimal contact with unbelievers, ex Witnesses fall into another category and Witnesses are instructed to have no contact with such a person whatsoever.
I have tried not to play upon the religious angle, however I feel I now have no choice, as my ex wife constantly attempts to support her policy of denying as much involvement in the boys life as possible by misleading statements and lies, I feel I have to present the underlying motive for her actions.
Once again she has shot herself in the foot.
This is a situation that after 11 years has not improved and as the boys reach 16, I am starting to get concerned as to her next move.