Sex,Sex, and more Sex????

by morty 26 Replies latest jw friends

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  calamityjane

  Yes this is an issue that is very hard for us as parents. But I think it is a good idea to be open with him and let him know he can come to you if he needs advice on this subject.

  We've had to deal with the issue of our 13 year old daughter, having her weekly or monthly crushes on different boys, some more serious than others. Although I feel she is too young, we've had the long talks with her, about dating, sex, the pressure that can be put on her.

  We have given her certain guidelines, we haven't been totally close minded (like the jw mindset) and it has worked for us so far.

  I am believe that if you tell a child no absolutely not, they are going to do it.

  Give them a choice, they can act on it or not.

  cj
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  SixofNine

  Of course, it's a little late for it now, but I like the idea of teaching the mechanics of things like BC while they are old enough to understand (the mechanics) but young enough for it not to be likely a pressing concern (well before 15). Of course, your son probably has a pretty good handle on the mechanics, just needs that extra encouragement to do the safe thing in every case.
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  xjw_b12

  M68.

  I think you should ask your son a few questions.

  I believe school curriculum in Ontario is the kids are shown how to "install" a condom in Grade 8 sex-ed class. They apparently use real condoms, on wooden phallic shaped "demonstation units"

  PS I originally "surfed" over you thread, because I thought it was "fluff". I only popped in after I saw wifey had posted. Next time you may want to start the thread under the "Family" topic, and word the thread in such a way to attract the attention of the more "mature" posters here ....

  And let us now how it goes.

  xjw_b12 who will have to do the same thing with his son in the near future.
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  Stacy Smith

  OK this show how the condom works thing. Is he going to use a banana or take him to a hooker?
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  rocketman

  To me, sex is one of life's big rip-offs, a big joke played on humans: It's something we desire most greatly (in our teens) when we are least able to handle it. To me, it's a big, fat, sick joke.
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  rocketman

  Good question by Stacy btw. Yes, I wonder how this "demo" will take place.
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  jwbot

  Ok, he is 15 and you havn't talked about contraception!? That should be taught about as young as 10. You may feel that it will give him permission...but that is contrary to research. Research has shown that sex education (the full extent here, EVERYTHING) not only prolongs the first instance of intercourse, but also cuts down on the instance of pregnancy.
  
  He could already be having sex now, you must understand this. He must know about contraception NOW! His peers are not going to be that good for advice in this. Please be open to him, he also must understand that you will always be there for him without judgement...otherwise he will not come to you for advice or to talk or for anything else...be open, be honest.
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  Special K

  Hey Morton68..

  I agree with XJW..

  This is legitmate and deep question you ask..

  but when I read the title of the topic.. I too thought it was a "fluff" topic..

  I notice too, you have had several poster jump in with their "fluff" answers.

  I have teenagers as well and will keep an eye on the topic and glean some information for me too.

  so .. thanks for starting such a topic..

  sincerely

  Special K
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  morty

  ok,ok,ok,I get that I titled it wrong....Iam still learning....I do relise that the school does talk to the kids about sex...and they use a plastic model of the males penis........ok...it has been said.........but I also feel that it is much better to talk to your kids yourself rather then some school nurse..

  For those of you that are teenage parents,I thank-you for your input....It is much appreciated.....Next time I will be more careful in how I post my question or commet..

  Just how we talk to our kids is important to me.....My mom and dad never spoke to me about sex in the "truth" You just never had sex if you were not married....Thats what was suppose to happen anyway........it is a delicate subject,and thats why I held back before I posted it.Your honesty is what I was looking for..........thanks again.....Much appreciated......

  My son NOT having a baby,a std or aids is also way more important to me then me dying of embarssement........

  mortons68
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  ESTEE

  Thought this was a fluff thread, too!

  As for the answer to your dilemma ... I don't have one....

  'Cuz I raised my kids as dubs, and they were ummm ... sexless until they got married, both of them ... good dub kids ...sheesh!!!

  ESTEE