Gawd! I am such a frigging wuss! I have been thinking and judging, and have come to the conclusion that I am one big wussy! People can walk all over me and I will simply smile and let them. Bah. New, uhm, month resolution (well, I can't write down new-years resolution, now can I), No More. From now on, I will speak my mind, and let people know when they piss me off. I will go like "YOU! YOU are pissing me off, who do you think you are talking to? are you looking at me? Are you LOOKING at ME?" - - Yeah right, as if... *goes back into being a total wuss-mode* - Blue Bubblegum Girl
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by Vivamus 22 Replies latest jw friends
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Stacy Smith
Naw you don't have to stay a wuss. You can be a hardened bitch just like me if you want. Next time someone messes with you think "screw you". Think that a few times. Then eventually work it into the conversation.
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iiz2cool
Kick some ass Viv !!!
I know you've got it in ya!
Walter
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Vivamus
*Giggles*
*lights a ciggie*
*gets a beer*
Okay, now I feel up to kicking some ass. Problem is .. no one is around
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Blue Bubblegum Girl
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Lady Lee
Aww Viv
I hear you loud and clear - I used to be a real wuss
And to be honest, while the idea of saying what you posted is quite energizing I knew deep down I could never say it.
So I compromised
I went half way
- "Excuse me, but that hurts"
- "No. sorry I can't do that for you. Could you find someone else please."
- "As much as I would like to help, I'm just too busy."
- "OUCH"
A bit part was learning I deserved better and no one would just hand it to me.
Learning to set boundaries was really hard... and scary.
"But, Oh? You didn't want my adivice. Sorry. I think it is too late now"
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Vivamus
But I am actually utterly serious.
Something will happen, something that is insulting and hurting and everything nasty. And at that moment, at that precise moment, my reaction will be to smile. It's a huge fake smile, and you'd have to know me pretty well to know it's fake. But at that moment that smile is my safety.
And days later, I will come up with all kinds of stuff I should have said in that moment, or hell, even done, just breaking some of those people's furniture and storming out would have been better than that darned smile.
And then! Instead of saying those things days later, or just talking about it in a rational way ... I will act as if it never had happened.
God, I need anger-management-therapy
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Blue Bubblegum Girl
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Lady Lee
shaking my head
And days later, I will come up with all kinds of stuff I should have said in that moment,
That sounds sooooo much like the old me
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Vivamus
Actually, LL, you using the term "old me" gives me a spark of hope... I can be a hardened bitch. Well, at least a none-wuss....
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Blue Bubblegum Girl
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Lady Lee
Viv
I'm still not in the bitch class but no one walks all over me anymore - no one
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JH
Okay, now I feel up to kicking some ass. Problem is .. no one is around
You may kick mine Viv... Go ahead, make yourself happy.