by logansrun 32 Replies latest jw friends
Even in my wild days as a teenager, I thought a small group of friends of sitting around listening to music (we had some good music then), talking and getting a good buzz (but not plastered) was the way to party. Dancing can be fun, too as long as the music isn't so loud it damages your hearing. Best party places I've lived? Oahu& Chicago. Even better though? Southeastern Louisiana.
Heather
Aztec....you're a wallflower?
Guess it depends on the place and the people. When I "rebelled from borg domination and control" the second time, in my mid thirties, at the very conclusion of life as a JW, I would work all day, and still go out at least one night during the week. I always enjoyed live bands, knew many of them personally, and had a great work out dancing into the wee hours of the morning when the place closed down. I never got intoxicated with drinks. I limited myself to a couple of mixers, and that was it. I was a good girl trying to find my way in the world without getting into trouble. Finding myself married but so very alone in those days, I sometimes went out to clubs by myself, and danced by myself. (You couldn't tell; the dance area was so small.) That was my release. I must have had this aura about me, because although some guys tried to hit on me, most were quite polite and left me alone. Many times I was invited to sit at the table with the wives and girlfriends of the band.
I was the dependable one. The one who gave rides to those who couldn't drive, and those who needed a space to crash, when they had a bit too much weed or drink. I really didn't fit in and sometimes felt very uncomfortable when thrown into certain circumstances. I always worried about consequences. I always took responsibility and felt accountable. What a bore I must have been in those days. I felt like I didn't fit in anywhere. I was lost.
These days, although I do enjoy people, I tend to like my solitude. I like curling up with soft music and a good read after a long hard day at work. I like taking walks and contemplating life. I have a few good distant friends from school days and a few post-JW acquaintances. All my JW friends are gone by the wayside and although we tried to keep our friendship alive in the beginning, there were just too many ghosts. I regret that so many fine people are gone from my life.
So, the answer is, no. I'm not a party person. But, I do know how to have a good time.
