I feel immensely better. Meetings and FS had always been a burden on my shoulders.
Since You've Stopped Going To Meetings, What's Your General Outlook?
by minimus 49 Replies latest jw friends
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Disheartened
Since I've stopped going to the meetings I had time...time to do all the things I've always wanted to do like join a book club (where we discuss intellectual literature and discuss different themes in our own words, not feeling the need to mention what "the paragraph brings out"), take a yoga class, volunteer with children, go to the gym three times a week and have a social life just to name a few. Since I have stopped going to meetings, my general outlook is pretty good-much better than before and besides, I never fit in the borg. I have always had an open mind.
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fraidycat9
I admittedly was a Kingdomhallic. Intended to do the slow-fade (a term I thought I ingeniously invented until reading up on this forum) but had a fire lit under me recently. Three weeks out so far and no feeling whatsoever. Waiting for "the call". I think now I have "the answer". If hard pressed to say I feel anything, I would have to say that I am slowly feeling awashed in peace. Sure, I may backslide; but peace sure feels good for now.
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minimus
With peace comes freedom.
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Flowerpetal
I hope my question gets read, as I was stuck on a certain page for the last few days.....Fraidy, what was the fire that lit you recently--if you don't mind?
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Sunnygal41
My outlook on life has improved in so many ways it is hard to express to those who have never been in the Borg..........but I'm sure everyone here can definitely relate..........
It feels like a huge weight has been lifted
I have my Tuesday and Thursday nights free again!
I don't have to get up and knock on people's doors on Sat.'s and Sun.'s and ruin their and my day!
I lost my self righteous judgemental attitude, and have become a loving, compassionate, caring person!
I can follow politics and get involved in discussions without feeling guilty!
I can put up a Christmas tree and decorate for Thanksgiving and Halloween, etc.
I don't have to worry about how my magazines are stacking up and feel guilty that all the Bethelites worked so hard to print them and they are just lying there!
I'm not depressed all the time!
I can buy esoteric spiritual books and do research on religion, etc.
My newest thing: watching horror movies, and reading books, etc. that I used to avoid, like Stephen King and Ann Rice!
If I want to, I can cut loose and get drunk and enjoy some weed without having to feel like I have to run to the elders or feel like I'm a moral degenerate.
I can go on and on, but these are some of the little and big ways my life and views have changed, you all can add more, I'm sure!!!!
Terri
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justhuman
I feel GOOD
So GOOD OAHAAAAAAAAAAOU
I have so many staff to do that I have no time to think of those boring and miserable years of the WT slavoury.
The most boring part of a JW life: MEETINGS
Meetings were young children are beaten by their "parents" because they just can't sit their asses, without moving for 2 hours and doing absolutely NOTHING.
My God, we came out alive from them!!!
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fraidycat9
flowerpetal: I pm'd you. Check your messages...
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Piph
I was worried about death for quite a while, but it seems to have mysteriously evaporated. I had to come to terms, I think, with the loss of belief in Paradise. I used to have all these plans for the future, then I was like, shit, I have to do this in one lifetime?? LOL
But life feels more real now. Things have been much better since we stopped going to meetings. It's only been a coupla weeks, but the difference is huge. It doesn't feel as important to know what happens after death...as long as I feel happy and fulfilled now, I'm not missing out on anything.
Like I said to Euph the other day, My future's so bright, I gotta wear shades!
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blondie
Oh Piph, I know how you feel. I am a newbie too, it's only been 10 months for me after 48 years of meeting attendance.
It doesn't feel as important to know what happens after death...as long as I feel happy and fulfilled now, I'm not missing out on anything.
Life is lived in the present not the future. Seems so simple, but as JWs we were taught to focus on the future and to consider the present as refuse. What is important is what happens during life.
The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly. The Buddha
I love getting up in the morning on Saturday and Sunday, knowing I don't have to rush off to field service and a meeting. My husband makes me breakfast and we read the paper together commenting on the news bits that seem interesting.
Blondie