Mulan I took held the hand of a friend as she died. As hard as it was I would have chosen no other place to be at that moment. I felt it an honor to be there for her and her family - that they welcomed me into their family to share such pain at that time.
And I bet you wouldn't either.
Min So many here are still in a great deal of pain from the problems they have endured in life. Some cry out their pain. Others vent their anger. You are so right about not judging when we know so little about others. (This is not to say we should excuse bad behavior but rather understand it)
Shamus - I didn't like the other choice