I need help

sis in distress

I'm new to this forum and I am in desparate need of help. I recently started a new job and I just found out that my new employer is a witness kid. In fact, I made the big mistake of talking about the JW's although I did not reveal that I am one. We had a three hour discussion in his office and he even called the society to verify things I told him. He defended the organization as if he's been going all the while. I feel that I'm really in a bind now because now I feel so bad being that I work for this person and feel that if he finds out who I really am, it may difficult for me to work for him. I wish I would have consulted you all before blasting him about his past faith.

You see, I didn't realize that even though he never got baptized and has not attended the KH in over 17 years that he's still been indoctrinated and still has loyalties to the borg. What a trip.

I just don't know if I can ever feel comfortable working for this guy and I need this job. Does anyone have any advice on how I should conduct myself when I go back to work Monday morning??????

I appreciate any support you can give me.

Thanks in advance for your support!

garybuss

Welcome! The most loyal and the strongest Witness types I have seen are the believing walkaways. I wrote about them in several articles. See "The Bomb". GaryB

http://www.freeminds.org/buss/buss.htm

larc

You might remind him of the subject of religiou discrimination. He can not fire you for your beliefs, or lack thereof. So inform him that your work performance and your beliefs are not relatedd, and should not be brought into the picture.

wednesday

hi Sis,

I agree, most likely he can't fire u for the religious stuff.( and get away with it) however, often times, employers will make up other stuff. really, talking about religion at work, pro or con, is a bad idea. No place i have worked at would tolerate it.Whatever u do, don't tell him u were ever a jw. Keep that to yourself. it would put u in the apostate realm, and he'd have a go at u. Jws break the laws all the time-its called Theocratic warfare. Just drop the whole thing and say "well i heard this from a friend..." whatever. and don't say anything else. Hopefully, he'll forget. But if he persists, go to human resorces and let them know. They might want to know why U brought it up to begin with.

What is funny, he'll probably start attending again.

sis in distress

Thanks everyone for your advice. I have decided not to take this any further. But I won't know what he's going to do until Monday morning. I'm hoping he has decided to drop the issue. However, due to the fact that he's already called Bethel, I think not. Can you believe I was actually sitting in his office when he called the society? I could hear it in the tone of the brothers voice that they were very frustrated with my boss for calling. In fact, they asked him why he had not called the local congregation yet? The only thing the brothers did was referenced a Watchtower article for him to look up. What a trip!!!

I will definitely keep you all posted as to what happens tomorrow. Thanks again for your help.

freein89

Well honey, I believe that this may be a valuable lesson. I learned the hard way to keep my mouth shut, because you never know who you are talking to in a new environment. Now you know. The old saying "It's a small world" applies here. I agree that you should let it drop. If he approaches you about it, be polite and discreetly let him realize that you don't want to talk about it. Don't come out and say it though, just sort of let it fizzle. Just give it a sort of lack of interest approach.

Go to work on Monday with a list of interesting subjects to talk about, or bring a good book to read on your break, if he approaches you and brings up the subject, let him talk a little and then gently steer the conversation to your memorized list of fascinating subjects or the really great book you are reading.

Good luck,

Deb

calamityjane

You see, I didn't realize that even though he never got baptized and has not attended the KH in over 17 years that he's still been indoctrinated and still has loyalties to the borg.

That's really nice that he has these loyalties to the Borg. But did he ever consider that being non baptized and inactive that he doesn't have a hope in hell of getting into the "new order". I was baptized, attending meetings on a regular basis, was inactive in the door to door four a couple of months, still considered myself a weary tired jw and was refused my blood card when they were handing them out at a service meeting. Slap in the Face to me. Because I was not active in "service" I was not considered a "witness". That's what the elders told us then, why would it change now.

Geez, these type of peole really tick me off. Their holier than thou mentality makes me sick They are so hypocritical.

I wish I could meet your boss, because I'd have some smellin salts for him, to wake up and see the light.

Love

cj

CJ of must have gotten off the wrong side of the bed this morning class.

peacefulpete

Apologize first for having attacked his faith, then ask him to disregard what was said. The apology is apropriate and the encouragement to ignore the info you presented will compell him to investigate it further without painting you as the messenger of ill will. Then what ever results you have done a service to him and have preserved your image as a compassionate person.

jgnat

freein89 and peacefulpete have great ideas. Since you need this job, keep the peace. If working for a man loyal to the JW's makes you really uncomfortable, start scouting for another job. Discreetly. You want to give yourself choices so that you do not feel trapped and unhappy at work.

Lady Lee

Hey look on th ebright side - this might be the wake-up call he needs.

But I think if he still wants to defend them it might be best to let him know you respect his belief in them and will agree to not talk about this at work

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