Hello SC_Guy! Very interesting story. There's a lot of people here who can relate to your story.
Sounds like you're going to have to learn your human interaction skills in your adulthood which is somewhat unfortunate. Many ex-jws have had the same problem. Things will only get better.
As far as what Harold did, you may want to check out http://www.silentlambs.org
It's interesting how things work. There's some things from my past that I never thought had an effect on me mentally or emotionally, but with my self-examination, discovery, and improvement, I've discovered many things that have been affecting my whole life. The WTS has taught you to cover up all your problems with the hope that Armageddon will fix everything. Many people have thrown all their problems into a closet and left them there. The problems are still there, and they know it, but have neglected to deal with them. Even if you are gay, and what Harold did to you was done without mutual consent, it's still wrong.
I hope you stick around, learn a few things, and have some fun conversation.