It's official... I've been shunned by my supervisor

by Elsewhere 21 Replies latest jw friends

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  Elsewhere

  For a few weeks now I have wondered if my supervisor has been avoiding eating with me. Sometimes I will go out for lunch with a few coworkers and my supervisor will always decline the invitation.

  Today I caught them leaving for lunch without me.

  I know it is unreasonable to expect to be invited with every single group that goes out... but when I looked at my supervisor while he was leaving he gave me the "Deer in the Headlights" look. He knew he was busted. He knew I caught him avoiding eating with me.

  Just when you think you are free from the bOrg... they manage to slap you.
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  Nosferatu

  I remember when you first posted about your supervisor. Didn't you mention that you were an ex-jw to him (or something along those lines)?

  Anyway, don't feel bad. I'm the outcast at my workplace. I'm almost never invited out for lunch, or even to pitch in for a lunch run. Me and my fiance were the misfits at last years Christmas party. We're aiming for 2 years in a row.
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  Guest 77

  Cheer up, better days are ahead. Your welcome to have lunch with me, and I won't smack you!

  Guest 77
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  worldlygirl

  Keep lots and lots of notes, Elsewhere. It is against the law for him to discriminate against you in the workplace on a religious basis. What has happened so far doesn't rise to the level of discrimination, but it wouldn't hurt to make notes of dates and times things like this happen... you never know if you will need to build a case against him later on.

  worldlygirl
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  Eyebrow2

  I agree...this is something you need to keep an eye on.

  Lots of times JWs don't even realize they are breaking the law. I knew one brother that fired two of his painters when he heard they were gay....and of course some don't care.

  You should walk into his office, sit down with him and tell him that although you respect his religious beliefs, this shunning at the work place is putting you in a bad light at work. Hopefully your coworkers understand that he is being a boob, but there is no way that this is not going to reflect on you in a bad light if it is common practice. Be polite, be professional, but be clear that it is interfering with work.

  Definately keep note of this behaviour. He is wrong to do it, but may not realize that it is affecting you professionally and just not personally. He may appreciate the talk.
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  Stephanus

  Perhaps you'd better have a word with someone in personnel/human resouces about this. Sure, he has every right to eat with whomever he likes, but we all know this is nothing to do with that. What I'm worried about is "phase 2" - when he starts running a campaign at work to make you look bad. As your supervisor, he'd be responsible for progress and performance reports on you. At least find out how far he has to go before he's breaking anti-descrimination legislation on religious grounds. And once you've alerted HR to keep an eye on him, you could go and confront him about the whole thing. However, conforntation means you have to put yourself forward and look like you're accusing him of something that he may well deny. You're in a difficult situation, Elsewhere, that you probably wouldn't be in had you not blurted out your status in the beginning. IOW, it's a bugger!
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  Elsewhere

  You're right stephanus... I kick myself everytime I think about how I opened my big mouth. I just wasn't thinking.
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  worldlygirl

  As your supervisor, he'd be responsible for progress and performance reports on you.

  Exactly. Would he feel pressure from others in the congregation to "punish" you by not saying anything positive about your work performance? It seems to be the unspoken rule that the end justifies the means... theocratic warfare, so to speak... anything to keep you in line or coerce you back to the flock.
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  Nathan Natas

  Dubs cn do pretty much whatever they want inside their Kingdom Halls, but this is ACTIONABLE!

  Keep a diary, as already suggested, and be prepared to nuke his Dub ass!

  Another proof that managers are morons!
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  Sam Beli

  Another proof that managers are morons!

  Generalizations are usually wrong and in this case certainly wrong. I agree with you that some managers are morons, perhaps many are morons, but to imply that all managers are incompetent is most certainly not the case.

  From a manager?s perspective, one could say that all workers are morons. That certainly would not be correct either, even though some workers are morons.