Dear Kelli,
It is good that you are finding healing. It is very sad but true that the JWs cannot and do not offer any real healing; in fact, people are just supposed to change their behavior, whatever it takes, and behavior is judged on its moral value, or against an absolutist moral scale, regardless of what's behind it. I personally believe that people need to be healed rather than punished. If a person is potentially a bad influence on others or may cause harm to others, that must be dealt with, but why is "punishment" the best way to do that? It might be more useful to think first in terms of society's debt to miscreants (what did "we" do to elicit your bad behavior, and how can we heal you and ourselves so that you can lead a productive, happy life contributing to your own and the common welfare?) rather than in terms of the miscreant's "debt to society."
Warm regards,
Cruithne