The wedding seems worse to me, as it is only the beginning of a bad decision (i.e. to marry a JW). In theory, the funeral seems to be a much happier event, because the misery that is life as a Jehovah's Witness is finally over for the decedent.
I went to a JW funeral a couple of years ago. It was my first attendance of a JW event in probably over a decade. I was disgusted by the lack of tribute/testament to the life of the decedent exhibited by the one individual who was permitted to speak at the funeral. The hour lecture could have been reduced to the following statement: "Brother X devoted his entire life to servitude to Jehovah. If you want to get to where he's going, you need to do the same." The deceased seemed to me to be the luckiest man there, because his death relieved him of having to attend the funeral or listen to the lecture that was given there.
The funeral was a "spiritual reunion" of sorts for my family as well. It had been decades since my siblings and I had attended any sort of religious event together. I watched the "friends" our family had known for decades shun my siblings, in a very conspicuous and cold manner. Those same "friends" had the presence of mind to be kind to me, as I had neither been baptized nor df'd. All the love given to our family by Jehovah's loving organization culminated with an ugly, profanity-laced argument between myself and another family member in the kingdom hall parking lot. It created a rather interesting scene for the Jehovah's Witnesses to observe, and probably supported their convictions that only worldly people are immoral enough to use profanity in a heated argument.