by minimus 44 Replies latest jw friends
The first two times I was disfellowhipped, I went back because, my family still spoke to me...The third time, that wanted to set a example and teach me a lesson. So they stoped having any contact with me . So, just maybe if they had treated me the same as they did the first two times I might have came back again.
Instead, I made new friends, and met strangers that treated me better then my family and so called friends had ever treated me.
Lisa
It seems to me that DOCTRINAL issues were not the main reason for leaving JW's. It was going thru other crap continuously that got you out.
I'm mentally, emotionally, even by their standards spiritually gone from the Org. What still keeps me physically there is the fact that I love my parents and husband too much, and they're fanatic JWs that I'm sure would choose the Org over me any given day. I'm not ready to deal with that just yet.
DY
Little Toe writes:
Scully:
You beat me to it. That was my immediate reaction to the thread title, too!
It's a good thing that great MINDS think alike! If we'd gone for the lobotomy, we'd both still be at the KH!
Love, Scully
This is a great thread. It actually makes me shudder to think about this, because although I disagreed silently with a few minor things, I thought they would eventually "see the light".
What scares me is that I may have never left IF it hadn't been for my son needing surgery. I grew up a witness and didn't question much, but when my son had to have surgery I started to research bloodless surgery and alternatives to blood on the internet. I was really careful not to look at an "apostate" website, but what set me off was a completely innocent comment on a website that listed the beliefs of the world's major religions.
The website stated that JW's had once believed that organ transplants were cannibalistic and then later changed their view point. I never knew about this change in doctrine, I was a kid in the early 80's. I immediately thought of all the people that could have died during the 20 some years that organ transplants were considered wrong. And then I thought, what if eventually blood transfusions will be considered o.k.? what if my son dies in the meantime? Things came unraveled from that point on, until I found this site and others that helped me to leave.
So in the end, I am afraid I might still be in the organization IF I had decided to remain childless or IF my son didn't need surgery or IF I hadn't decided to do my own research on blood. That freaks me out, I feel that I narrowly escaped.
A big change in the disfellowshipping and reinstatement policy to get them scriptural
1) get rid of disfellowshipping, period. The organization cannot be trusted not to abuse this power to wreck
families.
2) change the meetings. In fact, the organization generally is socially and spiritually dead. The meetings are dead.
Field service is dead. Dump the Service, "Amway Sales" Meeting and start a congregational dinner or something
that actually brings people together.
metatron
It's obvious MOST people don't leave because they realize there's no such thing as "the faithful and discreet slave class" or that the "preaching work" is a scam. It seems to be mostly for person reasons, rather than theological.
Mornin Min......ya bastard
I was never one to stumble for personal reasons. No matter how much hypocracy I saw, or lack of compassion,.....I ALWAYS blamed the individuals and NOT the Organisation. That was however UNTIL I read COC and saw the Malawi/Mexico hypocracy and suchlike material.
In other words....I would have never saw these things on my own........had it not been explained the way Ray explained it in his book(s). I sometimes wonder how people see these things on their own WITHOUT the aid of another.
Gumby
I'm like Gumby, C of C relieved me of any ties to the JW faith after I had been gone for 20+ years.
I left because I was tired of that life, it just didn't appeal to me any longer. There was nothing that they did that caused me to leave so there was nothing that could have changed to keep me there.
I don't think there is any religion that can capture me again.
Ken P.
