Thinking of the kids at Christmas (page 2)

KKLUV155

This might sound strange, but, I am glad to see that I am not alone with the sadness of Christmases lost. Every year I get this over whelming sadness in my heart for all the Christmas' gone by. Why is it such a hard time for me to get over this JW crap and to just get on with life. Oh well maybe some day.

wednesday

don't we all remember how lonely and sad we were at christmas time? Never getting to be a part of anything. I am so happy my grandkids are growing up with all the holidays and do not have their father hiding a toy in the closet and giving it to them the day before xams day, but then telling them that we didn't celebrate xmas!! How confused can a kid get? Pretty confused, i tell u.

I bought my grandkids a CD with childrens xmas songs. They are so happy, they love xmas!!

Angharad

(((((Sassy, Mouthy, KKLUV))))

Sassy - I'm sure they will appreciate a thoughtful gift from their mum, even if they dont celebrate. I hope things work out with it next year

It really is great being able to watch them enjoy themselves.

Have fun tonight Princess

Hapgood

Thanks so much for sharing this with us. It's great that your kids can just be normal kids without the Watchtower baggage. I'm so happy for you and your children! Sounds like you all had a blast.

I wasn't overly strict with the jw rules at Christmas time. I aways tried to do something special for my daughter and make sure she got some new clothes and toys during that time of year. But she missed so much growing up, I still feel the guilt. She is now making up for lost time with her little family. She has every nook and cranny of her home decorated. She put up my Mom's Christmas tree that has been in the family for years, it's so beautiful . I went with my daughter to take my Grandson (her little son) to see Santa at the mall. It was so much fun seeing the joy in his little face.

Have a Merry Christmas!

Hapgood

Angharad

I aways tried to do something special for my daughter and make sure she got some new clothes and toys during that time of year

Thats great Hapgood, my parents did the same for me, we had a family present day.

I did find it very hard at school at that time of the year though, there was so much going on that I couldnt be a part of.

Mulan

I just don't remember it being a problem when I was in school. The only Christmas party I remember was in 6th grade and I went to it. I didn't buy a gift for the gift exchange so the teacher put one in for me, so I still got a present. I loved Christmas music, .................but times were different in the 50's. I suppose I shouldn't have stayed for the party, but Mom didn't think it was a big deal. She said I wasn't celebrating Christmas, so just stay and have fun. Who can figure?

As for my kids, it breaks my heart to remember all the things they missed out on. I just can't dwell on it.

As Rachel said, it is great now and we are all united, celebrating the "dreaded Christmas". Who knew it was so much fun?

I aways tried to do something special for my daughter and make sure she got some new clothes and toys during that time of year

Mom did that for me too. Dave and I would go out shopping after Christmas and buy things on sale to give to the kids on our anniversary, which was December 29. We were so poor, for so long. In a way I'm glad we didn't have holidays. It would have been a terrible burden to bear, knowing we couldn't give them the things they really wanted. We would have done something, but money was tight for a long time, when the kids were growing up. Now is good!

caligirl

Thanks for posting about this Angharad. It is sad for those who don't get to participate. And I fully relate to your happiness in watching your kids.

My 7 year old had his class Christmas concert this morning, and I sat there choking back tears while trying to videotape it. Partly because I am just so proud to see him up there participating and partly because of all that I missed out on and being grateful that my children do not have to go through having to leave or not participate in class activities. I was always nervous during band concerts (flute for 4 years) but by far the worst embarassment was having to sit there and hold my flute across my lap like an idiot while everyone else played the Christmas songs. What a relief it is to be able to allow our kids to be normal.

Lady Lee

Wow I remember too missing out as a kid feeling different. I was glad I left when my girls were 8 and 12. They at least got some xmas's and now they are both loving every minute of it.

Sometimes I read people post that they are over what the JWs have done to them. But times like this, has a tendancy to bring back the sadness, differences and losses. And there were a lot. They might not affect us every day but they do pop up.

It is posts like this that can take us back to what we missed but they also allow us the freedom to declare our freedom.

Thanks Angharad for posting this

PurpleV

I remember craning my neck to see the Christmas lights during the drive to the kh on meeting nights, wishing to hell I was going anywhere but where I was going.

The worst was Christmas Day itself, boring cold day off from school knowing what fun everyone else was having, nothing on TV but Christmas, Christmas, Christmas.

Special K

I volunteer alot at my youngest sons school..mostly in the Library.

Over the past few weeks there have been many "Christmas Concert practices" in the gym.

three kids were brought into the library to stay with me. I wondered what that was about, until someone in the Library told me they were J.W.'s .

The one boy told of how long you have to sit in the gym to just watch the concert. About a whole hour OR MORE.

The other boy said, "That's nothing, my sister and I have to sit at the Kingdom Hall for TWO WHOLE HOURS."

Anyways, I made sure they were entertained with books etc, while they were in the Library.

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Here is another situation at the school.

Two boys 8 and 5. Father not a J.W. and mother is a J.W.. The 8 year old sits in the Library during the concert and the 5 year old is up on the stage singing Christmas songs with his class.

Just think how screwed up that family is going to be after a while. THey are literally split down through the middle. SAD.. so SAD!

your right.. we need to pause and think about all the little J.W. children who are made to be and act differently than their peers in school. In school, all most kids want is to be the same and fit in... not feel weird or different or secluded.

sincerely

Special K

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