Well I made the mistake of telling her that I had been reading up on it and speaking to other people about it, my family and friends have no objections as far as I am happy, they dont particulary believe in her ideals but are happy If I am, others friends have been fairly straight to the jugular and told me to wake up and smell the coffee, she insisted that if I wanted to now anything then I should ask her, for her unbiased opinion, Im like what..unbiased ...I have a an open mind, I have my own free will honey. Needless to say fireworks ensued well untill the early hours of this morning, shes read up on all that before she decided to convert and I shouldnt be reading it, like this boards views and other peoples opinions are not valid, I should go to a meeting and see for myself the true things that go on, yes 'when hell freezes over' was my reply, to which the reply was 'your not openminded, thats the stereotypical view everyone has of JWs'.
I have no intention of being brainwashed by her.
Is it my perception, or is it more hardcore over in the US & Canada? Is it more lapse over here in thr UK? because whats shes telling me is not relating to what Im reading are the true beliefs of JWs.
Ive said about me not being accepted by her friends, but apparentley Im wrong as since going back to the meetings she has told them and they are happy for her to see a Non JW and eventually marry one? She has told me that she would herself be baptised after she is married and if children were to follow, then 'When' not 'if' they choose themselves to become baptised they could, again not an issue Im clear about surely the elders and congregation would pressure her to have them baptised at an early age?
I bought up the issue of outside persuassion from the congregation and like, and again she has told me differentley, that it would just be a decision of 50/50 between myself and her, nobody else.
I have asked her if the decision was to be made between me and her beliefs, where would I stand, surprisingly again she has said that I would be chosen over the witnesses. Am I lucky in that she is not fully immersed in this organisation, I have asked her to quit, but she says it wont come to that, I should respect her beliefs as Its not much different from christianity and I should be able to accept that as It wont affect our lives, Im not being naive or being sucked in but I want this to work, If only she was not a believer.
The blood issue also things dont seem to correspond, if and when children arrive on the scene, then should they become ill, she says she would discuss and even consider a transfusion.
With christmas one week away, another heated debate is on the cards already, I should spend xmas day with her and take part in no celebrations whatsoever, apart from getting drunk that is and sinning, despite my affections for her, from my point I have my family to consider, Im certainly not going to shun them just to get my leg over and make her happy, christmas lost its magic years ago for me, but even so no xmas day this year does not appeal to me.
Thank you all so far for your advice, should I stay with my partner then I see myself becoming a regular on this board, I appreciate this very much being able to voice my concerns and ask questions.
