Ummm, with an alias like your's ([email protected]) was you looking for pleanty of spam? Or is this somebody you hate and you want them to get pleanty of spam?
Hey, I had to ask.
Does True Love Still Exist??
by [email protected] 13 Replies latest social relationships
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Nosferatu
Hello quik! Welcome to the board. I just had to jump on this question, and you pointed out some very interesting traits with this girl....
im worried that my girlfriend would end up like that i mean she studies relaly hard coz she wants to become a doctor....now i know the only reason for that is because her parents force her into it
This can become a big problem relationship wise. Your gf is becoming a doctor because her parents want her to. This indicates that she has a strong need to please other people. If she were really interested in the money, or actually being a doctor, she would do it by choice, not because her parents told her that it's good money. Later on down the road, her parents will be making the decisions as to what she should do in your relationship with her.
is it possible to have a girl that would put u before anyother?
Yes it is possible, but there are a couple of downsides to this. If she puts you before herself, she loses respect for herself. This in turn leads to low self-esteem and depression. If you're looking for a good woman, look for one who has respect for herself foremost, but still has respect for other people. If you find a woman like this, you'll have very few problems in your relationship. Needy women tend to become very controlling. If you end up with a controlling woman, you'll turn into a slave. Beware of this.
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lisaBObeesa
If it is "True Love" you would support and accept her just as she is.
If you can't, then it isn't real love.
I find it hard to understand why you would not want the person you love to be s uccessful. Don't you want the best for her? What are your plans for YOUR life?
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yeah see thats a problem...her parents...i dunno she just cant think for her self she always says it...i ask her wat she really wants in life and shes always like i dun really know...and see i really dun like how people chose their careers based on the money....coz yeah doctor here is no.1 for it has the highest paid rate....and plus its guranteed 100% job once u finish ur degree....she said that.....but i dun like how people go for money it just seems like they are really money greedy....i mean me id be happy with my course which is IT....it offers all i need....i dun need so much money and neither does she but its her parents damnit....like u should see her...she stresses out so much everyday thinkin about all this stuff....its not makin her happy at all...and she even says it that her parents just keep stressin her about it never makin her happy....
i guess ur right about her puttin her self first...its true....she has to respect her self and want her own happiness as well.....but i didnt mean it such that she would lose all this...but at least u know put u before alot of things...like me i at times put her before everyone...just to make her hapy..it sitll made me happy...like iwouldnt do it if it was gonna destroy somethin about me if u know wat i mean.....yeah i admit i dun want to be a slave...nor do i want to make someone a slave....but id like to do the hard work and all to help out the girl...as long as she gives me the honosty and complete love....trust.....id be so happy....thats all ive ever wanted.....
if it is true love id support her and accept her just as she is?.....but wat if its a person thats always depressed and wat if i can see that in future...she will continue to b like this....how can i let her b down? i cant.....and i love her and i want her to be succesfull....but being succesful doesnt mean u have to complete some course...esp when its not even REALLY her dream.....its somethin she thinks is essential....like shes been raised up in that way...she thinks that if she doesnt go into that career....its like over!...u cant be financially secure etc. etc.....i dunno....i always thought that true love didnt involve money etc....first came the love...and then together u can find a way to make money.....and also havin ur dream career yes...but wat if its not? is there any point?.....
plans for my life? i have goals which dun seem to mean much no more....i want to do somethin in IT area coz its of interest plus it will provide the sufficent money i need..im not the type that will work my life away for money that wont even be needed...and i just want to have a proper family u know...coz ive been raised up in a poor environment and i want to have children and give them wat my parents could never give me...i dun mean this in materialistic ways....and i want a wife that love me just as much as i love her...but i seem to care and love to a great extent sometimes i feel that kinda of love isnt existant in this world anymore...from all this greed....