by Big Tex 22 Replies latest jw friends
As i am sure freelife would agree i am a very calm person......NOT! LOL Anyways, I have a horrible temper and if something ticks me off I have a hard time biting my tongue. The thing I recommend most is Valium. Seriously it is my new best friend! LOL, 
gotta love it!! Whatever works right!!
I've always been a mellow tempered person... it takes an awful lot to get my feathers ruffled. I've literally had to learn when I was justified in getting angry... too many people were walking all over me.
Now I just tell 'em to Fck Off!
I don't know what to tell you about losing your temper... I just hope I never have to see it!
I tend to have a quick temper, get emotionally charged, and react, usually not the way I would if I think about it for awhile.
Tell me about it. That's me to a T.
I think a lot of times if I know what triggers my anger I can avoid getting into that situation, or people. Sometimes it works, but sometimes I just have to work through the situation.
I just hope I never have to see it
Me too.
I'm not really a mad type person. My dad had all the anger in my house of origin.. he owned that feeling and no one else could have that one.
Many years later...after him.. I do get angry once in a while and I have claimed anger as a part of who I am. But I'm still not angry that often.. I consider myself pretty easy going.. UNTIL.. I had kids. Now that will help you find your anger you thought you never had.
When the kids were little and I was ready to blow up because of something they did.. I would put them in time out for 5 minutes.
Alot, of times I found that their 5 minute time out was more for me than them. A time for me to cool off so that I could talk to them appropriately about whatever it was they had done. It worked great for them and it worked great for me. I have never ever hit my kids. Hitting only makes things worse, in my opinion.
Now they are too old for time outs. So, when I get really mad and I know I'm being a "b*tch" I go off by myself until I can get my head straightened out as to why I am so mad.
I do believe their is a time to be angry and I let my kids see me angry sometimes. It's okay to be angry at our house... just direct it to the person it is aimed at and not anybody else... also, tell them directly how angry you are and that seems to help.
My husband tends to more of a quick blow the top of his head off kind of guy. the way the kids and I deal with him is we find it kind of entertaining. He gets mad.. we all laugh at him .. and in a few moments he starts laughing too... he is really funny when he gets real mad and we all up laughing about it.
sincerely
Special K
Big Tex, I don't have a quick temper....BUT....even tho it takes a while for the crap to build me up to boiling point, when I get there, I can (unfortunately) go ballistic....and getting over it?.....I've learned that it's best to look at my watch (or my calendar) and tell myself that I'm gonna take "X" amount of time to be P.O.'d about it....what usually happens is my anger fizzles out pretty quick, cause I'm not concentrating on what's made me angry, but rather on keeping my anger heated up for a certain amount of time, which is impossible to do...heheh....Now I hafta admit I don't always remember to do this and sometimes will "grouse" about something or someone for a bit....but the "timed anger" response really works best for me.
Frannie B
Get drunk.
I have a loooooooong fuse, but when it's ignited, watch out.
The result is usually short and explosive, and then I promptly forget what I got mad about.
I have a loooooooong fuse, but when it's ignited, watch out.
I'm like Lady Lee, I have to be sure that past events in my life have not ignited the current situation.
Blondie
I'm the kind who when he gets mad, finds out he has hurt the persons feeling that he's mad at, then over-does it when apologizing and then is too nice to the person. When that same person gets you mad again for the same reason as the first......then I get doubley pissed, and sometimes....don't apologize. It depends on who and what it was about.
Gumby
I too, have a long fuse. I prefer not to argue and I think bantering publicly is lack of self control But, that's me. By nature I'm a peacemaker. But people tend to like to tease me because of this--a game to see how much I will take.
However! In stating the above, if one should persist to bring up the anger in me, and corner me, I am no one to dally with. It is not so much anything I "do", but they tell me that I have a look that could bring down an army. When I get really quiet and give that look, it's all over.
I learned a long time ago that screaming, slamming doors, crying, cursing (yes indeed and I know some doozies) does nothing but encourage more production of adrenalin and usually solves nothing about the situation. It raises the blood pressure and stresses the body out more than we think. Being calm really does make them wonder what you're up to.
I'm not saying that all anger should be suppressed, because that is not good either. That can cause health problems, emotional issues, and ulcers (of which I had ten at one time) We need to get it out, but not in a way that damages us or anyone else.
Anger is different than rage. Rage is anger that has gone out of control.
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