by Euphemism 42 Replies latest social family
I think something like this would be appropriate to use with a child that has repeatedly violated your trust. Otherwise, it should be unnecessary.
I agree that most kids would find a way to outsmart it though.
My kids are still too young. I know if they aren't with me they are most likely at Kindergarten and First Grade.
Euph,
Describe "extreme." Otherwise...yes...a parent does have the right to read a child's musings.
Describe "extreme."
Extreme: Yerusalyim
Judging by your posting history, you like to control and you like to be controlled. You're a patriarchs wet dream.
Privacy, wow, that topic as it applies to kids, can go in several directions. I've raised three, but have this philosophy: If you compare kids to little coiled up springs, then you have to "release" them slowly. Or they just go boing! all over the place. As they grow, release them slowly, adding priveliges and responsibilities as they merit such. Trustworthy kids should be afforded the trust that they merit.
As far as the locator phones, I don't think I would use them unless my child were being dishonest with me, getting into trouble, etc. I believe these child "privacy rights" need to be tempered with the parent's right to know certain things. Afterall in many areas the consequences for inappropriate behaviors come home to roost with the parent, and only secondly to the child.
Elsewhere,
No, I just believe that I'm responsible for my children and what they do...if my kids were to say...build a bomb and take it to school...and I didn't know about it...well, I'd feel like maybe I failed my kids. The single biggest problem we have today in schools and society is LACK OF PARENTAL involvement.
Now...ask me how many times I've read my daughters diary....exactly ZERO...but if I felt I needed to... I would have NO QUALMS about doing so.
You gotta give it to him, Yeru speaks his mind.
but if I felt I needed to... I would have NO QUALMS about doing so.
ew. and if you did... I guarantee that nothing you could do would ever make her trust you again for the rest of her life...
Odrade
Odrade,
Well, if it stopped her from committing suicide or taking a gun and bombs to school to blow up and shoot fellow students...it would be well worth it. I'm not there for my kids to "trust" I'm there to raise them with certain values...I respect their privacy...but they KNOW I reserve the absolute RIGHT that I have as a parent to violate what they consider their privacy at any time for any reason....and I've yet to do it.
I'm sure the Columbine parents respected their kids right to privacy as bombs were being built in the bedroom...and I'm sure the kids trusted and respected them for it...and how many died?
And that is exactly why I did not keep a diary.
Sad when you think about it.
Well, if it stopped her from committing suicide or taking a gun and bombs to school to blow up and shoot fellow students...it would be well worth it. I'm not there for my kids to "trust" I'm there to raise them with certain values...I respect their privacy...but they KNOW I reserve the absolute RIGHT that I have as a parent to violate what they consider their privacy at any time for any reason....and I've yet to do it.
I'm sure the Columbine parents respected their kids right to privacy as bombs were being built in the bedroom...and I'm sure the kids trusted and respected them for it...and how many died?
You remind me of my parents... they thought I was some kind of psychotic crack dealer who was pimping whores. In reality I was the one kid who was behaving himself.
Do you really suspect your daughter is capable of these things? If you do... then searching her room is the least of your concerns.
Here is a twist..... you can get a GPS type system for a car. It will tell you where the car is, how fast it is going at the time, and where it is exactly. For example : Car is on I-5 Northbound at x exit and is going 95 miles per hour.
Hmmm, if that were my kid, he would lose his car. I value his life, and want to preserve it more than I care if he is upset that I have a device on his car and that I am violating his privacy. My kids do not have their own cars yet, but I have no problem putting that device on it, and letting them know. I will tell them that I will not police them, but from time to time I will pull a history of their driving. If they are caught recklessly speeding, then they get grounded, and lose the car.
Hopefully, just knowing that I might be watching will be enough to deter them from acting stupid.
This device will also allow you to disable the car, once it is turned off. Can you imagine it? Dad, I am going to library. And you find out that he is at Susies house. Hmm, that could be quite funny to disable it, and wait for that phone call.
