Blondie good point , that JW's don't help out the ill, aid victims, homeless shelters , alcholics and drug addicts. That is right they won't and they don't help out even if you are a JW in the congregation.
Oh I can remember so well some families struggling to get by, with food and clothes for their family. One family friend of mine were dirt poor in Ontario's York Region. This area is considered affluent. How ever the brother couldn't find work any where and he tried because I use to help him by driving him to interviews. We were new to the cong. at this time and instantly I was drawn to this family because one they were nice not pretentious, humble and poor. They lived on the street behind our house. My father and mother lived next door to me and my father was an elder and he knew we were helping them out, because we had extra and didn't mind in the least. So papa says no help to them. The brother is lazy, does nothing,all day. So that is dads opinion, I make and chose my own friends, ah but alas daddy says I don't want you contributing to his laziness. So this brother has no money for himself or his family sometimes he wasn't able to provide food for his children. I knew that my father threatened me and said don't give them anything. So I am not going to listen. It is a cold and vicious winter in 1985 but hey let them freeze how cares, daddy elder doesn't and terry me that is is ferocious.
Here in my home that I bought through my father and then lawyer for the Society from time to time Frank Monttreille. In my yard along the fence line was cut wood serval chords of wood and so I would take some wood over to the family to keep their house warm, another brother made them an air tight wood furnace. So like I have all this wood and I have no fire place. Dad says, are you giving that wood to so and so. And I said yes ,because its mine it came with the house, All of a sudden daddy says no its not yours. So I say it is, because it came with the house. We argue more and more about this issue. In the meantime brother and family are freezing and still very little to eat. Ah ah I have a plan, when daddy and mommy are asleep I put lots of wood in my truck and take it over to their home. They are delighted. One day dad says where is all the wood going: I said I gave it to a family in need. Oh yea he says I know who and I told you not to, do you want to be in trouble with the cong. ? I thought what the ****k is like his problem. Dad said I promised the wood to Steve my brother in law, bull shit I thinking and he can't really do it because its mine. I don't win my dad and brother in law come to my home and remove the remaining wood, And I was livid, its like my brother in law needed it, they just bought a brand NEW home and they c ould get their own wood. Dad was all over me for everything. So I couldn't get help cong. wise as daddy was in with the Presiding O to well and they didn't like to help this poor family either. Gawd I wondered what the hell did this dear family ever do to you, that you have t obe terrible just terrible. Little I could do on the level with my elder daddy shit I was livid. So I went to the main store in our village area, small little town had a RED and WHite Store, these people that owned this business in the town along with most things in the tow. I told them about my friends. The store owner knew the problems as the husband would come in from time to time when he had money to get groceries. I said to her that the family was really at the end of the food chain and despretaley need help and would you please be able to help them. I think I no sooner said that and she and her hubby had a few boxes of food at their door. Now you think that they would have called for help maybe welfare, but they had no telephone. So they couldn't and no one would let them use theirs. I was so ashamed of being a JW. So when ever the husband would get a job interview they gave me info and I would see to it he got their for the interview. My father hated me for all the help we were giving them. Summer in 1985 arrives. District convention time. Okay they can't travel back and forth , no reliable car. Ricky asks me terry do you think and I hate to ask this would you please loan us 300.00 for the convention. I had it and I said yes I will gladly give it to you. Well as the assembly drew near, my daddy says by the way Terry we don't want you giving them any money for the assembly. Well I was ready to explode and I said what is your problem anyway and he kept insisting the brother could not provide for his family and wasn't making any effort to find I job. You know I just sobbed and sobbed and I said tomyself why oh why are you doing this to a family who is trying to survive. Daddy says, you give them anymoney Terry I will see to it that you get disfellowshipped for disobeying me.
I went over the Ricky and Cindy's and said, I have the money for you. But I have a huge problem and its my father. My father said if I give you any money I will be disfellowshipped. Ahgasted they were as I and Cindy is crying, the kids are crying and I am crying and saying I don't believe this but I am going to give you the money so long as you tell you never recieved it from me. That was fine for a while. Afew days later Cindy walks over to our house and tells me terry we are so greatful that you want to help us but we don't want to see you in troulble, So I called my mother (Cindy's mother who was disfellowshipped yrs earliar) and I told her what has happened and so her mom said, I will give you the money. So she did. And this family got to the assembly
As the next yr passed my father and mother were no longer talking to me as I was fraternizing with my neighbours when they would come up to their cottages. Dad said its bad association. I said I have a good conversation with them and they have asked me many questions about the JWs. And dad says , so you visit drink beer and witness to them. Well aren't you the best next thing to a hypocrite. My parents didn't talk to me for three yrs my father longer than my mother. They moved away from beside me.
In the meantime I got a social worker and help for this family and by the spring of 1987 they had a brand new home in Barrie Ont through Ontario Housing. It gave them a fresh start a new cong. no one knew them, and so they could get off to a fresh start. It went great Rick got a job and Cindy got a part time job and every few monthes auxillaried as a pioneer. I was so happy for them and finally I could look at my dad and he could nt do a damn thing to me as they were no longer in our cong.
Now isn't that the horrors of Christian's who declare with their undying holyier than now attitude that they deserve God's blessings.
WHEN I TELL THIS STORY AND IT HAS ONLY BEEN TO ONE OTHER PERSON I WANTED TO DIE I HATED FROM THAT MOMEMT EVERYTHING ABOUT JW;S MY PARENTS AND THE ORGANIZATION.
TODAY THIS FAMILY HAS A NEW HOME THREE GROWN CHILDREN AND ARE BUILDING A NEW GARAGE AND TOO THEY LEFT THE ORGANIZATION THE SAME TIME I DID, AS WE WERE THE BEST OF FRIENDS.
I cry when I think that JW say they help their own. well well they are liars and hypocrites and I am so glad i don't belong to a so-called religion who say they follow the footsteps of Christ Jesus.
Well I hope I haven't made this to long but I really needed to vent and vent I did.
All my love '
Orangefatcat.
