what you can learn from taping phone conversations!!!!:)

orbison11

well, as i have posted here before, i am in a rotten relationship
so, i have decided to get a phone tape recorder thingy
sheesh, i can't believe the other lives this person i am living with is living
not one, but 3 lives
lies like i can't believe
up until now i have let him bully me, threaten to destroy my life, etc,
but now i have friends,
something i couldn't/wouldn't get after i got df'd. i was to afraid to trust anyone plus i thought so little of myself ,,,,until now

so in a couple of hours i am going to confront him with all the amo i have from the phone conversations

and to all you cheaters out there, beware :):)

wendy

lisaBObeesa

Wendy,

Be careful! Some men confronted sometimes become abusive and or violent.

Be careful. You may want to have your car keys in your hand at all times and your important things out of the house in a safe place before confronting him.

And let us know what happens and that you are ok!

-LisaBOBeesa

orbison11

thanks

actually i have my keys, for car, in his name, my shop and apartment in my left bra and my bank card in my right,

i think it will be ok and i can walk to new residence if i have to, plus now i have friends,

i have been so afraid of people since i left the wt

like i wasn't good enough for friends, etc, but since i opened my shop 9 months ago i have learnt different, i got major xmas cards, presents, and visits just from my clients alone, i thought i was the jezebel of the world, nobody cared

that is why i posted a few days ago about how this forum has become my haven, i am able to read on my pc but not post, unless he is gone, so i have made all here my friends for a few years without your knowing:)

wendy

ball.

Make copies of the tapes before you play them, and remember there are the same number of women cheaters out there as men ;) ;)

orbison11

yes there are copies of the tapes and i agree

there are equal number of women

"_ w

frenchbabyface

Just in case : Stay cool ... anyway if possible

Don't yiel at him : Why ?
Because otherwise you may even won't be able to have any answer

Don't acte jealous : Why ?
you'll get more information

Don't be jealous : Why ?
because you will be the only one to turn sour ! and it is not appealing ...

Don't ask names : Why ?
you don't want to know (she is not important - it's all about him and you)
cheaters get used to hide behind sluts / sometime their poor victimes somehow (LOL and not LOL)

Don't take, talk nor ask about any definitive decision while you're angry
if possible be as quiet as possible because it is more impressive in this case and cause it will be hard for him to reply by violence or escape the dialog.

good luck ... best wishes
Take care ...

ball.

good advice I think.

95stormfront

Be careful.......

More than one woman out there have got their ass whipped busting a man, and I use that term very loosely, in the manner you're going about.

bisous

Storm makes a good point. Have you considered just leaving, now that you know what you know? IMO, it would be safer. Confrontation probably won't accomplish anything positive.

Protect yourself. It sounds like you've made huge inroads. Why not put yourself first and move on?

Whatever you decide, be safe.

jst2laws

Orbison11,

Be careful. I have to admit many men are pigs. And very violent pigs when forced to face their oinking image in the mirror of reality. I hope you have the tape recorder going when you confront him and also have friends at the windows to back you up if it gets ugly. Other wise, dial the local police station, give you name and address and then acting as if no one is on the phone, confront him.

We are here for you, but cannot stop a mad man in an emotional rage.

Frenchbabyface,

You gave some excellent advise.

I hope it is not from experience.

Steve

what you can learn from taping phone conversations!!!!:)

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