Joy from Death ... A Daughter's Remembrance (page 2)

cruzanheart

Dear Brenda, thank you so much for sharing those insights with us. I'm glad you had the privilege of witnessing all of it, though I am very sorry about your mother's death. I hope you find peace and happiness in 2004 and beyond.

Love,

Nina

Sassy

((((((((((((((((Brenda)))))))))))))), so sorry to hear about your loss. I am glad that you have found some help through this time. I myself after having only come out of the WTS this past year, find myself afraid of what happens at and after death. I would like very much to believe these things you felt reasons to put faith in. I have been with ones to their death (my grandmother and my ex husbands grandmother) and I find some of what you said familiar with their last days. I will have to give it some thought.

Most of all, I send you love and care during this time. Thoughts with you, Sassy

RAYZORBLADE

(((outnfree))) Brenda, thank you for relaying your experience with Mom here with us.

I was most impressed with your decision to bring Mom home with you last month.

Lovely to see that Jann, a woman who has gone through much this past year, was there to be the true gem she is. Jann is a good friend.

Thank you for sharing your experience. For many, I hope, it will give them some comfort. Others, at least a peek into the life that you have lived with your mother.

I have been with 1 person, at the moment of their passing. It was not a bad experience, it was quite moving, but actually blissful, peaceful and quite beautiful. This was while I was living in the Philippines some time ago. There were some interesting events surrounding the death of this person, it was quite remarkable.

Just the same, Mom has moved on, and you and the family are left without her physical presence.

My condolences just the same, but I think your process of Mom's passing is quite moving and it gives me a very positive impression of our last breaths/final moments.

If and when it is possible Brenda, hopefully in the near future (spring maybe) we can plant a tree in Mother's memory. I will talk/speak with you about this.

I have done this for two friends here. We planted a maple, and a pine in memorial. The tree will live on, for many decades if not centuries, and hopefully drop many seeds to green our fields, hills, and countrysides. The memory of those passed, living on in such a lovely way.

Big hugs to you Brenda.

Thinking of you and your family.

Thank you for sharing this with us, and some interesting thoughts.

An added note, I am most happy to read that the Hospice care there in Michigan was quick to act and were most helpful and resourceful. That's comforting to read.

Best wishes,
Hugs,
Ray

mouthy

My deepest sympathy also Brenda. Glad you felt "good vibes" May the New year bring health & Happiness & to keep good memories. Grace

Special K

Hi Brenda.

I remember your first post about your mother back on November 24th'ish.

Your account of your mom's passing has left me in deep thought.

It certainly was an interesting passage from this life onward for your mom.... and it seems, by your words, that her discussions with you may have left you more prepared for her passing.

My condolences on the loss of your Mom, Brenda..

sincerely

Special K

LittleToe

((((Brenda))))

I'm sorry to hear of your mom's passing. It must be a mixed time for you.
THis was a lovely post. Thank you for sharing it.

Every blessing,
Ross.

outnfree

Thank you, everyone, for your expressions of sympathy.

I must tell Viv, Mulan, (and even you, (((Carrie)))), that when these "trances," or whatever, were occurring and I was watching my mother draw invisible persons to her with her one good arm, kissing them, feeding them, in a strange and beautiful sort of pantomime, I was astonished enough to ask my best (another ex-JW) friend if she had seen or heard anything of the sort when she watched her grandma and then her mother-in-law die. She said only her m-i-l had had "hallucinations" of dead relatives around her bedside. I thought to myself that I would have had exactly the same reaction two years ago (I DA?d in March 2001). I also spoke to my uncle, who lost a wife to cancer, thus another long passing, and he said he?d seen similar things.

My brother and I spent the day with her, the day before, when she was in a pretty deep coma, and he talked to her of all the people she would be with again, our grandparents and our aunt who had died the year before, our cousin who had died of leukemia in 1987, and she would nod her head and smile, but not wake up. It was a wonderful time.

Mulan,

My mother actively said, "yes" or "no" when I asked who she was seeing. She also revealed the name of her guide, but I could not pronounce it then (even though she repeated it with a smile) and I cannot attempt to write it here. She worried with clear speech that we would be able to afford to bury her in New Jersey, and I assured her we would handle it. She indicated when she was not speaking well that she wanted a certain afghan with her in her casket by bunching it up and holding it close to her heart until I guessed what she was getting at. I am astounded at much of this.

((((Ray)))),

Your lovely PM of a few days ago was what made me decide that I must finally inform the board and share what I?d experienced.

Lovely to see that Jann, a woman who has gone through much this past year, was there to be the true gem she is. Jann is a good friend.

You have no idea. [smile] Mom actually started breathing ?funny? before I left for my Biology exam on Thursday morning, so I went to take it and then came directly home because I was concerned. I phoned Jann on the way home and told her that I was concerned ? Mom?s breathing was panting the night before and labored in the early morning. As some of you know, Jann has had a near death experience. She told me that it was very scary to be standing on the threshold of the Other Side, but that it was truly lovely once one crossed over. When my mother?s breathing changed to a third kind, I kissed her and held her hand and repeated exactly what Jann had said, and told her it was really, really okay with me and [my brother] Bob that she go on through that Door. She left within the half hour.

I, too, was fearful that watching Mom die would be just terrible, and gut-wrenching. Instead, it was tranquil and hopeful.

Sassy and Special K,

I am gratified that this account has made you willing to think deeply about the implications as that was my intent.

(((LT))),

A mixed time, indeed. I cry at the responses, I am personally grieving the loss of Mom?s physical existence on a very deep level, but I am freed from so much earthbound baggage.

Grace, honey,

I?m happy to share the ?Good Vibes? in a Christian context: 1 John 4:7,8. Also, here?s what I said in her eulogy: ?When my mother lay dying those final few days in my home, she was visited by her guardian angels & loved ones who had already passed on. She told me I had to believe that we DO live ?in two places.? I must tell you now, Mom ? I DO believe. I know you are back in the Light, in the presence of Love on another plane. ?? Since ?God is love?, Mom has returned to God, and she can stay in one of the many places prepared for her as long as she needs to and wants to.

Love to all,

Brenda

think41self

((((Brenda))))

I'm so sorry to hear of your Mom's passing, I know you will miss her greatly. As I think you know, I try to keep an open mind about afterlife, immortality, other planes of existence, etc....because we simply don't know! I found your account heartwarming also, and I'm so glad you found joy in the experience. I hope my children could feel the same when my time comes, and I hope they are by my side, with love, as you were with your mom.

Tracy

Double Edge

It is all quite strange, weird even. And it?s quite wonderful, awe-inspiring, soul-lightening, a true gift.

Yes, it is. Thanks for sharing this "true gift" with us here on the board, very inspiring. My thoughts and prayers go with you and I do hope your grieving is short-lived. I too strongly believe in "the other side" and feel that our loved ones are very aware of our lives. Your mom is still your mom and most certainly watching over you.

Cowboy

((((((((Brenda)))))))) I'm sorry for the loss of your mother, but I understand the peace that you've found. I've been through much the same situation with both of my parents, and I can certainly relate.

David

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