by joelbear 23 Replies latest jw friends
Hello everyone,
nice to share thoughts and opinions about
a given subject. Here is my short lines on it:
* Shunning someone because he/she has decided not
to believe anymore to lies...never!!
* Try always to imitate Jesus attitude... true not
easy but always loving and positive.
Agape to you all, J.C.MacHislopp
Unfortunately, we can't change other peoples' attitudes. However, neither do we have to play by the rules of the WTBTS.
If there is someone who means a lot to you, tell them. If they reject your love and kindness, the problem is theirs--not yours. It is difficult to shun a person who refuses to accept the fact that they are shunned. Look them in the eye, smile and say "Hello", call them when you would like to speak with them. Let THEM be the ones to have to face their rude behavior.
I wonder how long they will be able to justify their rudeness and unkindness when they are consistently met with love? Your reactions to their shunning (or lack thereof), just might create a small chink in their armor and allow a little light to shine through.
Joel, I agree with RHW on this one. Don't LET them shun you. Love bomb 'em!
I know it doesn't always work. I have a family who have never been JW's, yet they have the shunning down pat, I tell ya! I know what it feels like to have your family and jw"friends" reject you, when you truly care.
However, I make my friends my family now, and they treat me better than my family ever did. There's no substitute for the real thing.. but I had to face the fact that just maybe the "real thing" wasn't real in the first place.
Big hugs and friendship,
RCat
I don't believe in "shunning" familiy members just to give them a taste of their own medecine. However, I agree with JanH in that just because we are related to a person biologically does not mean we have to associate with them. Sometimes, especially if a person's family is still in the cult, they have very damaging patterns of behavior that can continue to do some serious harm to members of their family, whether they are in the truth or out.
In my family, my Mother continues to throw out mental triggers related to the brainwashing I experienced within the cult, such as : "Just wait for the new system, everything will be solved then." While in the past, these may have disturbed my well being, they no longer have an effect on me because I have ceased to believe them.
