When I was a married man I never strayed, now the wifey had other ideas! Now I have no interest in marrage. I keep a cleaner home than all the women I know, and I like being able to take off and travel. I do enjoy the company of women, but like them having their homes and me having mine. And I'm not too crazy about giving any more women half of all I own. In time that may change and I may want to hook up with someone special. But for now the "service" work is a fine friend to me! Maverick
FORNICATION - Friend or Foe?
by adamgraziano 18 Replies latest social relationships
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Satans little helper
it's not the fornication that's ever the problem, it's the baggage that can go with it. If you are uptight and prone to guilt then it can be destructive, but it's not the sex that's the problem, it's what's going on inside your head.
Diseases and unwanted pregnancy can happen just as readily in a marraige, the licence protects you from nothing
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Big Tex
Like anything else, it's what you make it.
If the best part of a relationship is sex, then the couple won't stay together very long, or very well. But if sex is an expression of love, and a somewhat small part of the relationship, then the relationship will probably last quite a lot longer and the couple will likely be happier.
Having said that, I'm glad Nina and I waited. We spent before marriage getting to know each other, and after the wedding, we kind of viewed sex as playing. We were two kids who had no experience whatsoever and we had a lot of fun playing and learning.
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Nosferatu
an unwanted pregnancy, or a sexually transmitted disease are often the bitter consequences of such conduct.
My mother is still shocked that none of this ever happened to me. I guess I'm one of the many exceptions.
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amac
That WT quote is absolutely correct....for the type of people that read the WT. Yes, those type of people will feel guilty and bitter, and STDs and pregnancys are real problems. For many others, there is no guilt or bitterness associated with it, but the physical side effects are inescapable.
I have a hard time arguing against their strict morals on this matter. It does more good than harm. If everyone in the world was completely monogamous, think of the problems it would solve. STDs would be greatly reduced, fewer abortions and orphans and single parent families. Fewer families breaking up, etc.
If someone wants to follow these strict morals, kudos to them. With my children, I will definitely encourage it. I certainly won't attach the stigmatism of losing out on eternal life if they do it, but will do my best to impress on them why it is important to retain sex either for marriage or for someone you are strongly considering marriage. Who knows if they'll listen. -
Sirona
I personally could not have sex with someone who I had just met, or knew little about. I could have sex with someone without marriage who I knew well and felt that we were going to potentially have a relationship.
I don't condemn anyone who looks at it differently though, for instance those who have no problem with swinging, wife swapping, whatever, but ONLY as long as everyone involved is fully consenting. (I've heard too many people say that casual sex is OK but they unfortunately leave a wake behind them of people who they've hurt in the process...)
Overall IMO sex before marriage with protection is not harmful to the individual as long as it fits with their own morals and feelings on the subject.
Sirona
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Satans little helper
Sirona, I feel pretty much the same way as you but from a different perspective. To be honest I have the morals of an alley cat and if I were single wouldn't think twice about having a one night stand. Thing is I have someone in my life that I would really hurt if I cheated on them and I have no wish to hurt the person I love the most in this world. I've also no intention of hurting the 2nd most imprtant person in my life - me, and hurting no1 would inevitably end up hurting me so it's sort of sensible in a selfish sort of way.
anyway, that's my two penneth
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Elsewhere
I once heard that the word "fornication" originally referred to property rights issues... basically taking from a man what he owned (the "goods" of his woman - who was his property); basically the same as theft.
Has anyone heard anything about this... or does anyone have any research on the original meaning of ?fornication??