Believers ? I need your input ? elder called and left my mother in tears

by acsot 36 Replies latest jw friends

  • Double Edge
    Double Edge

    John 13:35
    By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.

  • shamus
    shamus

    I strongly believe that they subliminally (spelling) made her feel guilty. Saying things like "oh, I sure wish we could see you at meetings", things like that. "Jehovah misses you", dumb things like that.

    I suggest that you never ever let your mother talk to them again. Sounds harsh, but don't let them!

    When they call again, tell them that she's under doctors orders not to get upset, and you would appreciate it if they would honor the doctors wishes. YOU will call them when SHE wants to talk to them, and leave it at that.

    It's disgusting what they do to people, and they don't even realize it. The elder was only doing what he felt was good. He just doesn't realize the horrible guilt that he is placing on your mother. "My yolk is light and kindly". The witnesses yolk is not kind and light. It is large and unforgiving. "Do as we say or we'll DF you." is the attitude that they have. REMEMBER THAT.

    They are a dangerous cult and you need to keep your mother away from them until she regains her emotional and physical health. When she can think clearly, she can start to be reasoned with. This may take years...

    Hindsight is always 20/20. It's not your fault, or your mothers. Please, remember that too. You're learning from your experience, and that is what we all need to do when dealing with the "loving" brotherhood.

    I hope that things are going better today.

    Shamus.

  • acsot
    acsot

    Shamus! Thank you !

    When they call again, tell them that she's under doctors orders not to get upset, and you would appreciate it if they would honor the doctors wishes. YOU will call them when SHE wants to talk to them, and leave it at that.

    I was wondering what to say so that they leave her alone. I was concerned that they'd phone when I'm not at home, i.e., when the health care worker is with her so they'd just pass the phone to her. I never even thought of using "doctor's orders"! That's brilliant!

  • jgnat
    jgnat

    Here are some feel-good verses to reflect on:

    Psalm 23
    Psalm 40
    Hosea 6:6
    Matthew 11: 28-30
    Matthew 9:10-13
    Galatians 5:22-23
    1 John 3:1-3

  • garybuss
    garybuss

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  • eby
    eby

    Maybe this would help her feel better. From the Watchtower itself, believe it or not.

    *** w93 8/1 30 Jehovah Remembers the Sick and the Elderly *** There is one sacred service that most sick and elderly ones can still perform: prayer in behalf of others. The early disciples attached great importance to this ministry. On one occasion they distributed the work load in the congregation in such a way that the apostles could concentrate on prayer. Faithful Epaphras is mentioned as ?exerting himself in behalf of others in his prayers.? (Colossians 4:12; Acts 6:4) Such prayer is most important and beneficial.?Luke 2:36-38; James 5:16.

    eby

  • acsot
    acsot

    jgnat: thanks! I've copied and pasted them. We began last night and I read Matt. 11, the whole chapter - in a translation other than the NWT.

    Gary: did you read my post?? I asked for Bible verses that will help my mother. I had already told off the elder!! sheesh!

    eby: thank you .

  • badboy
    badboy

    dOES jEHOVAH MISS HER?

    how interesting!

  • Guest 77
    Guest 77

    This is the wife of guest 77. Just wanted to share with you that we had belonged to a congregation of many seniors aged into the 100,s while one in particular was so incapacitated physically that she could not attend meetings. No one thought any less of her. Several others no longer could attend meetings just because of the infirmities of age, another was hospitalized for a couple of years. None of these seniors were chastised for being no-shows and I know that your mom would feel the same way. Now, unfortunately, she is in their situation and she has to believe that her God will understand. After all, have we not been taught that Jah is a God of love? A parent does not beat a child for being ill. Encourage your mom's mind and heart, have her concentrate on the good of the God she serves.

    Wife of,

    Guest 77

  • acsot
    acsot
    A parent does not beat a child for being ill. Encourage your mom's mind and heart, have her concentrate on the good of the God she serves.

    Good point, Guest's wife. I did some Bible reading with her last night and it went very well. Thanks for that input.

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