by Billygoat 14 Replies latest jw experiences
Andi -
So incredible that you've come to this new place in your life. I've had bosses and coworkers do the same sort of thing to me. The good news is that what goes around comes around. I suspect that the people your boss is saying this stuff do are secretly telling themselves that he's a jerk.
Keep your head up and just show everybody he's wrong.
Amen sister Boy did that make me feel good..
Hey Billygoat
Firstly I loved the title of this thread! I will laugh all day about it. Secondly I just have to say this about people who are nice to your face and talk about you behind your back..THey must be a JW!!!!!!
No seriously my thought is this...they are the one with the problem not you. The point you make is great about just becuase they say it it isnt true. Thats great you realise that but you are still hurt about it. I would confront them. I dont care who they are or what their position is. They are just human and need to be put back on their stool. How dare they judge you in that manner and not have the guts to confront you. What a coward. Dont let them get away with it. Inform them that if they have anything to say to at least have the courtesy to say it to your face and not behind your back. Then report them for slander or libel (sp?). They are damaging your reputation, why let them?? Stand up for yourself girlfriend, dont let one weak individual crush yor, your image and your reputation and think nothing about it! You are worth more than that. That person will continue to do it until you stop it.
Andi,
I remember being stunned that there were so many people in this world LIKE ME!
That line is oh so true.. When one musters the courage to come on the net and then finds that fact to be true, it is the most comforting experience that we cab have..
You put it so well. I identify with all that you say. Thank you , thank you for posting it amd making our days brighter
EDITED TO ADD: Sorry about the quote thingy. Sometimes all these buttons confuse a goat. LOL! I'm impressed that so many of you actually read through my novella! Haha! I was just kinda writing my heart at the time...thank you for letting me share!Gopher,
You took a big step in that direction this week.Sometimes I take little ones, sometimes their big. I feel like this week I grew a lot. It's a nice feeling to look back just a day or few and see the progress. It doesn't mean I'm done though...I'll struggle with this more later I'm sure. But like somebody else mentioned...my rebound time from these type of things gets shorter the more I grow!
((((Jerry))))
As always, sweet brother, you think more of me than I do myself. I think YOU'RE the cat's meow, but I know our perception of ourselves is always different. Thank you for always BEING there.
Bebu,
...there was a comfort for me always that God never waivered in His love for me. He gave me dignity and respect, and lifted up my head. I know I am significant to Him, no matter how others--or I myself--my feel at any moment. That is an amazing thought to reflect on.That is so true Bebu! But it's still taken me a long time to really GET that. He's never waivered and is always there. I think that's hard to fathom in our finite little brains.
((((((Six)))))
I do feel like a wretch sometimes. LOL! But it is the amazing grace that helps me unlearn that JW mindset. 19 years of that ingrained in my system is going to take at least that much time to get out. I figure by my 38th birthday I'll be doing pretty good! Only 6 more years to go. Haha! Again, keep on keepin' on with that sweet child of yours. Her answer to you that day in the truck is EXACTLY how God wants you to raise your daughter. You're a fantastic father - I hope you know that!
ESTEE,
I know that what the elders do in the name of GAWD is a crime against humanity. It is spiritual abuse. I now believe that their karma will one day catch up with them. Because what goes around comes around.I agree with you 100% here. It IS a crime against humanity. And I also believe that one day they will know without question the path they've taken them has lead them to something other than a paradise. I think the majority of them KNOW it now...they're just too proud to admit it.
((((Lee)))) You have always been such an encouragement on this board. You make a much bigger impact than I'm sure you realize. Thank you for always having hugs and great insight!
(((Hopalong Onacruse))))
Call me a typical brain-dead male, but it totally blew me away to feel the comraderie.Nope. You might be (LOL!) but I felt the same way and I'm not brain-dead or a male! It's finding that thing you NEVER expected in a million years. A treasure? Absolutely!
((((((Joy)))))
Thank you! Just by welcoming me into your family the way you have. It's so heartwarming to have some people here that knew me from way back then. I was a little "toot" as a child I know, but I think it's that same bullheadedness that got me where I am now. And I must say I'm glad I am where I am!
Sally,
Andi, its very hard to bite your tongue when others are gossipping behind your back, or go rush to defend your name. Thankfully, you probably don't have a can opener at work.It's very hard for me to do that. Unfortunately, I am very good with words. Many times they come back to bite me in the @$$ too. It's what helped me escaped from the WTS. (Arguing with my father became a bit of a struggle for HIM...I was right too many times...I can mince words just as good as any Watchtower writer.) But yes, I do have a can opener at work. I've just had to choose not to use it today.
JeffT,
I suspect that the people your boss is saying this stuff do are secretly telling themselves that he's a jerk. Keep your head up and just show everybody he's wrong.
Funny you say that Jeff, because one of his counterparts called me the other day from Philly. She is a pretty high level director and basically told me no matter what anyone says, to keep doing what I was doing...that I was a good employee and she knew it. I don't like her particularly that much, but that comment told me two things. One, that she is another person he's been talking to. Two, even some people I don't like that well acknowledge that I do a good job. And that felt really good to hear!
Yesterdays Child,
Growth always hurts in the process, but man looking back it DOES feel good!
Purple,
I would confront them. I dont care who they are or what their position is. They are just human and need to be put back on their stool. How dare they judge you in that manner and not have the guts to confront you. What a coward.
Yes, he is a coward. Something I have no respect for. Have a freakin' back bone yanno!?!? Grrr! Just reminds me too much of those cowardly elders I think. LOL! But for now, I've decided to NOT confront him. Basically because of what I said to Jeff above. My boss is making himself look like an ass by gossiping and by lying about me. Sometimes if you give enough rope to someone they hang themselves! I'd rather let him screw himself while I gracefully stand by. People will make opinions based on what we DO and do NOT say.
Bluesbrother,
When one musters the courage to come on the net...Whew. That is SO key right there. Getting the courage is a difficult thing. That's why I am SO proud of so many people on this board. We all had enough courage to get away from what we believed false. Do y'all realize how much that takes? As JWs we had a lot to lose. And many of us lost everything! I mean everything. But we're still here. We're still chuggin' along. Finishing this race is what matters. Not how much grace we have in the meantime!
Love,
Andi
