What Is "Counsel" and How Does It Work?

by Cold Steel 14 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • Cold Steel
    Cold Steel

    Yes, I know what "counsel" means, but it clearly has an esoteric meaning.

    In the Academy Award winning bunker video series, the noble Brother Brown admits he didn't handle it well when Elder Ben (who was a junior elder...uh, yes, that's right) gave him counsel about a talk he'd given. Not enough use of scriptures.

    Is this a common practice -- giving unsolicited advice to people? Is it something only elders do or can anyone just barge in at a Kingdom Hall? Can regular members give elders counsel? Or can an elder give a circuit overseer counsel?

    How does this work?

  • OUTLAW
    OUTLAW

    can an elder give a circuit overseer counsel?..

    You`ve been here too long to ask a question like that..

    A WBT$ Rep is the Final Word (Kinda like Jesus).....Period.....Case Closed..

  • Cold Steel
    Cold Steel

    I've never actually been to a Kingdom Hall, but I've heard the term "counseled" used here repeatedly. Even when it hasn't, I've heard stories where JW members have had other members give advice that, had it happened in my church, would have resulted in some quick counter counsel.

    But when you say a JW rep is the "final word," do you mean no one would dare counsel him (but that he is free to counsel others)? What about women who poke their noses into the affairs of other women? Is that called "counsel"? Can a woman counsel a man?

    Paul said let women keep silent in the churches, but quoting that particular passage can result in grave physical and psychological...distress. But given the Society's penchant for literal exegesis (like the blood thing), I'm surprised women don't have to cover themselves and confine their questions to their husbands.

  • stuckinarut2
    stuckinarut2

    Counsel in WT world means being "told off" for not going according to Society guidelines, or simply having a bully elder impose his personal views on another.

    There is NEVER any room for a "lesser" witness to reply to or kindly object to the "counsel".

  • LongHairGal
    LongHairGal

    COLD STEEL:

    The above poster said it right. "Counsel", in the Jehovah's Witness religion, is being told off for not following the religion's guidelines and/or some bully elder trying to impose his views or opinion.

    The problem in the Witness religion is that any idiot there feels they are entitled to give you their "counsel". This is no exaggeration. This can take the form of polite advice in conversation, a phone call OR it can come in the form of remarks. This can happen any time because some Witness either saw or heard you saying, doing, wearing, attending, associating or working wherever, etc...Witnesses are also notorious for gossip and tend to envy, so if you have education or a decent job, you are more likely to be scrutinized.

    This will also happen if you are NOT doing (or doing enough of) the controlling activities they feel you should be doing.

    It will never be over and the only way to be free of it is to get the hell OUT and away from the JW religion!

  • FedUpJW
    FedUpJW

    Is this a common practice -- giving unsolicited advice to people?

    Common practice? No. It is an unwritten requirement in order to be a "good" JDub. You must run around looking for any and all excuses to jump down the throat of your fellow "brother" or "sister" with unsolicited, unwarranted, unwanted, needless advice in the ever present agenda of control.

    Sorry assholes!!

  • Cold Steel
    Cold Steel
    LongHairedGal » any idiot there feels they are entitled to give you their "counsel". This is no exaggeration. This can take the form of polite advice in conversation, a phone call OR it can come in the form of remarks. This can happen any time because some Witness either saw or heard you saying, doing, wearing, attending, associating or working wherever, etc...Witnesses are also notorious for gossip and tend to envy, so if you have education or a decent job, you are more likely to be scrutinized.

    Well, in the case of Bro. Brown, he felt bad because he didn't take the less senior elder's counsel about using more scriptures in his talks. He thanked “Ben” for his counsel, but inwardly he resented it. But what if he had, at the time, said: “Look, Ben, when you give your talks, you can use as many scriptures as your heart desires. But when I give my talks, I'll use however many scriptures as the Spirit guides me to use.”

    Would this be considered out of line? Sinful, even?

    Also, do they call people by their titles? Since Brown said he'd been an elder “longer” than Ben, he obviously felt (at the time) that the counsel was unjustified. It made me wonder if Brown was still an elder since they called him “brother.”

    FedUpJW > You must run around looking for any and all excuses to jump down the throat of your fellow "brother" or "sister" with unsolicited, unwarranted, unwanted, needless advice in the ever present agenda of control.

    When someone offers this advice, how do they do it? “Hi, brother Brown...great talk, but if I may offer you a little counsel, you'd make your points better if you used a few more scriptures.”

    If everone does it, I reckon meetings would be somewhat stressful. But is the rule that you can counsel down, but not up? And I suppose counseling a member of the GB would be out of the question.

    Now what if I fancied myself one of the Anointed Class and partook of the Memorial every year? Would I still expect to be counseled? Being a former member of the faithful slave class, why should I listen to the great crowders?

  • blondie
    blondie

    Supposedly a CO is only another elder..........but, it would be better to have the DO do the counseling. Elders can counsel other elders but not outside their own congregation without creating a rift that might last 20 years.

    Paul counseled Peter publicly though Paul had been a persecutor of Christians and Peter was one of the 12 and given the keys by Jesus.

  • LongHairGal
    LongHairGal

    COLD STEEL:

    Your questions about what if you were of the "anointed class" and would you expect to be counseled: ...Years ago when the so-called "anointed" were around, they were quite old. In the late 1970s they were in their eighties and they got "respect" and deference (I think it mostly had to do with their advanced age.)..Some were cranky and difficult to deal with.

    So, I doubt if they got counseled much about anything.

    Fast forward to later decades: increasingly younger people started to claim they were "anointed". Since divine claims can't be proved, you're supposed to take their word for it. (Yeah, right)

    The religion, along with a lot of other people, had no patience for this (in view of certain "anointed" being eccentric.)..All these new partakers didn't jive with the religion's claim there should be fewer of them as time passed.

    I do think the religion opened this can of worms. Unfortunately, certain people want to get into the act and want to be treated "special". Then, everybody and their brother will start saying they're "anointed".

    The religion started to imply people might have psychological problems if they think they are anointed!

    Just for your information, none of these people got any special respect from me and I tended to avoid them.

  • Cold Steel
    Cold Steel

    Very good points, as always, Blondie. When you say, “Elders can counsel other elders but not outside their own congregation without creating a rift that might last 20 years," you point out something that is simply human nature. No one wants to be criticized by peers or underlings. That's why I say the word “counseled" ought to considered esoteric in JW terminology.

    Honest counseling, as I see it, would be as it was in The Godfather (which ought to be canonized I my view, but that's another discussion).

    So it is when Vito Corleone counsels his son: “Barzini will move against you first. He'll set up a meeting with someone that you absolutely trust, guaranteeing your safety. And at that meeting, you'll be assassinated...it's an old habit. I spend my life trying not to be careless."

    That's good counsel.

    When Tom Hagen counsels the don, he defines the situation, then offers options and a recommendation. That's counsel. And when Calo says, “In Sicily, women are more dangerous than shotguns" -- that's good counsel! “Use more scriptures in your talks" is NOT good counsel! It can create rifts with a lot of people, and with good reason.

    In Galatians 2, I see Paul's remarks as contention, not counsel. He was not offering Peter any useful advice as Peter was attempting to walk a fine line between his Jewish culture and the future Gentiles who were being courted, or proselytized. In this situation, both Peter and Paul were apostles, and both were led by revelation in those efforts (see verse 2), but Peter, as you state, held the binding keys on Earth and in Heaven. In my own opinion, Paul was out of line because he viewed Peter as a bit of a hypocrite. Instead of taking Peter aside and saying, “Look, I know what you're trying to do, but we're in danger of sending mixed signals. I propose we take the matter before the Lord and see what His will is so we're not telling the Jews one thing and these Greeks another." At that point he could have offered his own views on where to draw the line and yet respect Peter's seniority in letting him make the decision.

    To me that would be counsel. But criticism is not counsel, especially dressing down Peter and others in public, then subsequently boasting of it in an epistle.

    That's why I asked how the JWs view “counseling" outside it's ordinary meaning. From the way it sounds, it means imperfect, flawed people telling other imperfect, flawed people how to improve their lives and How they do things.

    LongHair » I...think the religion opened this can of worms. Unfortunately, certain people want to get into the act and want to be treated "special". Then, everybody and their brother will start saying they're "anointed".

    Yep, but why would the Society teach that all the first century saints were going to be part of that anointed class? Why did they rate that status? And since this “John-class" group is deemed to be symbolic anyway, with 12,000 being taken from each of Israel's twelve tribes, why does the number have to be literal (as many apocayptic scholars have suggested)?

    The religion started to imply people might have psychological problems if they think they are anointed!

    Yes, of course.

    Just for your information, none of these people got any special respect from me and I tended to avoid them.

    Well, I always say, if you can't beat them, join them! If you're going to buy into the religion, why not fly first class? Why should some reformed tax collector in the first century be part of the heavenly crowd while I have to gather sea shells and plan family reunions for trillions of years in a Paradise Earth? And that's only if I'm not destroyed during Armageddon, which I hope happens rather than being part of the great crowd.



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