Yeah, I also spanked the living hell out of mine. I was young, and I married to a women who had a cute little girl and she would not take care of her it seemed but only at the meetings. I regret it a lot cause now I am divorced from that bitch and see the folly of my ways at doing what that bitchy women told me to do, rather than follow my own good sense.
Spankings at the hall.
by avishai 61 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse
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slenderdog
There is a lot of pressure to keep the children quiet. My ex used to get *furious* at the dirty looks from the "good witnesses" (who were usually childless) when one of our children wasn't still. This sort of treatment drove her away years before I quit. After she left I used to take the kids (poor kids), and I started to notice the dirty looks myself.
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shamus
I get angry when I read these stories. The cult told them to do it, and they felt pressure.
There is a time to discipline with a "swat". In your own home, and when it only is absolutley the last resort, and I wouldn't swat any child under the age of 3, or over the age of 8. My version of a spanking would be just a swat on the bum and then put them in they're room and talk to them when they stop having a "temper tantrum" to see what's wrong.
The swat would not hurt, and I would never ever do it more than once.
I dunno... these stories make me sick. I had a friend who was a witness and he would get spanked and he wouldn't even know what he did was wrong until it was too late. I mean, please! What does that teach our children?
I don't blame any one of you for having such anger towards this type of physical and emotional abuse.
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Eyebrow2
I thinking spanking can be appropriate....if, as others said, used as a last resort, and not heavey handed. With younger children, say 3, a light spanking with a stern word is more of a distraction than a punishment.
I don't thinking spanking in public is really a good idea..At the hall it seemed more to prove to the elders, or more often than not I think, to the elders wives, that you could control your kids.
I got spanked a few times growing up, hard a few times, but I can honestly say I deserved it hahah. My mom only spanked us in extreme cases. My brother was such a hellion...one time my mom was so desperate that she spanked him silly on the butt with one of those flexible plastic race tracks (remember those?) those STUNG!!! But he would just taunt her after each spank..she would hit his butt harder, and she would be crying, and the tears would be rolling down his cheeks while he was laughing at her. She stopped spanking him after that.
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Insomniac
Wow. This thread sure brings back some memories. My honey and I have decided never to have children, but we share the opinion that no one has the right to hit someone else in anger. Especially when the other person is a defenseless child.
I dream of being the sort of person who, when she sees a child being abused in public, hauls off and decks the parent. I could never actually do that, but it's an indication of the anger I feel towards those people.
Next time you raise a hand to your child, ask yourself how terrified you would be if someone four times heavier than you, and a hell of a lot stronger, were to start beating on you. Then, quit being so damned lazy that you try to solve problems with violence and intimidation, and try actually being a parent to your kids.
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DebraDoll
avishai -He got worse than that-he was murdered. No, I didn't do it. He was actually disfellowshipped then (what a SLAP in the FACE that one was-no pun intended!) and trying to make ammends.
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little witch
Yes I remember it, and the adults getting praise for their proper parenting! GRRRRRRr
And now a little levity...(forgive me, but it is funny)
My husband, myself, and three of my youngest kids are coming home one late night after visiting my eldest son in a neighboring town. We stopped to gas up the car, and whilst hubby is pumping the fuel a loud big woman follows this little bitty boy out the doors of the station.
She is screaming at the top of her lungs at this little guy. "I told you yada yada yada"!!! And publically berating him.
She was storming across the parking lot completly out of control. Just as I opened my car door to confront her, the other customers broke into laughter.
She had her dress tucked into her panties!!! LOL... And thanks to her big mouth, everyone knew it!
Everyone (including myself) began to heckle her, and someone phoned for help as she ran for cover!
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blondie
Imagine if grownups wouldn't sit still at the KH, what would people think if they dragged them to the back room and spanked them? Or is that what is happening in the backroom?
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gitasatsangha
It is very sad to read these memories from you all. I was very fortunate in that my parents did not follow the party line when it came to children. It must have taken some nerve for them.
But I was lucky. I do remember many other children did get beaten at the hall. And like another poster, I remember some poor kid yelling out for Jehovah to help him, while the audience laughed. Wonder if that kid believe in the old Jehovster now? At the first hall I went to as a child, these spankings, beatings, whoopins, etc, did not occur outside because a neighbor would complain to authorities, from my understanding. So it went on in the women's restroom, or in the Second School. The old people would smile and nod while the kid was being hurt and humiliated. You could hear it all quite well. These were the same old people who would smile and nod, of course, if someone's child died from a lack of blood transfusion. Ghouls.
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avishai
avishai -He got worse than that-he was murdered. No, I didn't do it. He was actually disfellowshipped then (what a SLAP in the FACE that one was-no pun intended!) and trying to make ammends
Debradoll, sorry if my response was so extreme. I'm sorry for your loss, as well, especially at a time when he was making amends.