Perhaps she's trying to convince herself and you that it's the 'truth(tm)'.
need input: why does my wife do this. when at the meeting she is always nodding her head in agreement
by goingthruthemotions 26 Replies latest jw experiences
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Divergent
I nod at the meetings too... when I fall asleep.....
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stuckinarut2
What Lieu said above!
Outward appearances are SO important in witness world, so the nodding is a way to show others just how much "we agree with everything being said"...
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TimDrake1914
More than likely, this is probably just a physical manifestation of hearing something that you are agreeable to, or of hearing something that sounded "good", whether or not it actually made any sense. I'm sure we have all been in that type of situation. But there could also be other unconscious psychological factors that are involved in this, and that probably have nothing to do with trying to consciously influence others, I believe. A lot of it has to do with the unconscious psychological need to fit in and conform when in a group setting. In other words, our mind is wired to conform to unconscious group pressure, and our behaviour will change to make it easier to conform to the group think. One great psychological experiment that demonstrates this is the Asch Conformity Experiment. Search Youtube and you'll find some great videos about this. Another related experiment dealing with pressure from an authority figure is the Milgram Experiment. As an Ex-JW, reading about and watching these experiments really helped me understand the mentality behind being a JW, and why we were so willing to continue to roll with the changes that JW life entailed. -
Sofia Lose
That behavior is just a small fragment of JW nuttiness. In the Spanish congs there are always 3 or 4 at each meeting that do this. It is funny to watch.
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Divergent
Here's the weird part: I've observed audiences with not a single person nodding their heads, then all of a sudden - someone starts to do it... then when others observe that, they would instinctively start to follow! Sometimes it has to do with something which the speaker said, but at other times, it's for no apparent reason other than seeing brother so-and-so or sister so-and-so doing it, then thinking: Hey, they are nodding & I'd better do it too so that I would look good & attentive also! -
sir82
This takes me back to my irresponsible youth, when my equally immature friend & I would cause each other to burst into hysterical laughter as one of the other of us would imitate the large ladies at the assemblies who would have their heads rocking backing & forth, uttering "Mm-mm-mm.....ain't it the twoof!" -
snugglebunny
It's all about "The McCabe Nod".
Look:
The ‘McCabe Nod’ is a tool that is utilised amongst face to face sales professionals when illustrating the benefits or advantages of their products or services and making closing statements. It’s something that the best sales people do very well and has similar grounding to mirror and matching skills.
The effects of the nodding are quite easily demonstrated when you ask someone to nod and say no and shake your head and say yes, without thinking about it first!! It feels uncomfortable to shake your head when nodding. Even that paragraph is confusing.
A perfect and interesting example is when you watch politicians speak to the media; they more often than not have a number of their constituents or party members behind them nodding with the proposed policy changes, amendments or general views. It makes the viewers feel more comfortable about what is being said, as it is subconsciously viewed as a positive mannerism.
When I am talk to a large group of sales people and have gone through the process of identifying the triggers for what is being presented, a statement such as ‘I am sure you can see the advantages of this specific product or service can’t you? and it does meet your current needs for what we have been discussing doesn’t it? All while in the meantime nodding , then as I am finishing this up, motion to look at each other! and the majority of the room are nodding. If your group aren’t doing a lot of nodding, then as a manager it can be a sign that your message is not getting through.
Getting a prospect or potential customer nodding and making those small gestures is important when attempting to make a sale. If this is not happening, then you haven’t made enough impact, built the repour or the need, or simply haven’t got the prospect's confidence yet, and a sign that more leg work needs to be done before trial closing.
It’s much easier to close the business with a prospect who is openly agreeing with your presentation points than desperately try throw out some features or benefits that might catch their interest.
Very much like selling to someone with their arms crossed! Until they open up to suggestion Understanding and practicing to nod when you yourself make an important statement, makes the sales process easier for you, and the journey for the potential customer or prospect much more comfortable.
Use it when suggestive selling, or even when you are on the phone.... Nodding like smiling does impact the feel across a phone conversation, while also demonstrating confidence and professionalism.
http://speedwayasset.blogspot.co.uk/p/mcabe-nod.html -
steve2
I have to nod in agreement with what others have said. Totally agree. And as I read back over what I've just written, I find myself nodding again. Yes! I have to nod and say "Amen!" to that! -
bradford
From an 02 awake:
Practical suggestions on how to listen during a conversation include turning away from distractions, leaning slightly forward, and giving active feedback with eye contact andnodding. Since much of our learning depends on effective listening, paying attention is something we must all continue to work on.
So basically she is doing this part, paying attention at meetings, but not listening to the other parts about participating by comments and field service.
Pretty standard JW behavior if you ask me.