by Eyebrow2 28 Replies latest jw friends
They may actually DO NOTHING
When I was a hard core JW, I tried sicking the local elders on my baptised mother who moved 500 miles away.
They never showed up, got too much other things going on in the congregation already without having to worry about another lost sheep.
Man, what a jerk of a person I was when I was a JW
When they come to visit, tell them that the person by that name moved. That'll throw them off. They may persist in giving a witness, at which point you can tell them you're just not interested (slam !!).
Well, you DID move there from far away, right? You don't need to tell them whether you moved in or moved out.
Or just don't answer. Just because someone is banging on your door doesn't mean you need to answer. After all it's your door, house and property.
All is fair in "theocratic warfare".
Oh, [thinking but not posting expletive]! Sorry that happened, eyebrow2! That was one of my old congregations, and I'm not sure who came to your door -- if I knew, I could probably tell you whether or not they'll follow up. It's a pretty cold and heartless congregation, so they may feel that they made a token effort and leave you alone, or you could end up on their rainy Saturday call list. If they show up again, I'd consider telling them that you work out of your house and you're really busy right now, but you know where the Kingdom Hall is (even ask them when Sunday meeting is, if you can keep a straight face), and you'll probably see them there one of these days. It's hard getting settled into a new place, new job, yada, yada, yada, thanks for coming by. That way they don't get their antennae up that there's trouble in Paradise.
If it's a guy named Quintero, look out -- he and I got into it before I moved my card to a lazier congregation, and my husband warned me that he was getting ticked off enough to start gunning for me. Don't start an argument with them if you can help it. Just "yes" them to death and don't show up for meetings. Or lie and tell them that you're trying to see if one of the other congregations in the area has more convenient meeting times for your schedule. The other Plano congregations are Preston Park (that's the prestigious west side of Plano) and Chisholm Trail (northwest) and their Kingdom Hall is west of Central Expressway on Hedgecoxe at Custer. Allen and Frisco are a bit far north for that to be believable, but you could also mention the Garland Firewheel congregation. That borders Murphy and takes in the south side of 544 (not sure how far into Plano that goes, if at all). Oak Park (the ones that visited you) is the only English congregation at that Hall. I think they have one or two Spanish congregations that meet there too.
Well, that's my two cents' worth, and I hope my knowledge of the area will be of help! If you get names, call me and I'll see if I can dish some dirt.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
Nina
They probably won't be back for awhile, so Gopher's suggestion will probably work. They won't remember what you looked like. How many times did you work with JWs on RVs that came back 6 months later and didn't remember what the name or what the person looked like?
Too bad it's your mom, or your could sic the DEA on her saying she was running a meth lab in her home or growing weed in the basement.
I'm mean tonight.
Blondie.
Blondie...my god that is funny! hahah
Nina...thanks for the info...good advice...I seem to spend a lot of time up at that big mall in Frisco, so maybe I should tell them I prefer that one hahah.....I will see if my mom remembers any names. And it was, indeed, a cold rainy Saturday come to think of it....hmmmm. I didnt really think of the schedule idea...they do have a wierd schedule at that hall....who on earth would want to be at the hall during the 4th quarter of a football game? Kind of kills the whole day when the meeting starts at 3PM.. who can stay awake between 3 and 5 on a Sunday when you are sitting down? Wierd....the brothers there must be soft, hahah. The hall I grew up in they would never dream of having the meeting start after 930 AM because that would mean the brothers would be getting home too late to watch the start of the race, or football game, etc. I should probably lay it on thick about my husband being an unbelieving mate and not wanting our children to go there. (Of course he is a sweet heart, but he really is disgusted with the religion).
(On a side note...thank god for malls with merry go rounds and free play places in them....so much more fun for the kids on a Sunday than the hall hahah! )
We should plan a huge gathering at the park that is right next door during the Sunday meeting so none of the JWs can park in the spaces that are for the park hahah.....even better, we could have a huge Apostafest gathering this spring right at the park....right next to the hall with big banners and signs MUAHAHAAHAHH!!! That just might be worth getting df'd, teeheehe...after all they have not seen me yet.
I don't know which is more disturbing to me, the fact that I would have to have a confrontation with them and I could get Df'd or the fact that I care so much about getting Df'd....it is a strange thing.
All of the above happened to me, except my father pulled the stunt.
And it didn’t do me any good to "low key" things: he came the 2500 miles to go to a DC. I’m not sure in retrospect that I mattered. So, while I was putting luggage away and sorting out hosting duties, he grabbed the phone and found a $%$&*#$@ KH.
Some "brother" shows up the next week. He committed technical trespass and came into my house without knocking or asking permission!!!! I had to throw the criminal out!!!
My father had told him a real pack of lies!!!
The nerve of ALL OF THEM!!!
Mustang
I don't know what my mom told them...I thinks she is still convinced I left because I fell in love with my husband....which makes no sense since I stopped going about 2 or 3 months before I even knew he existed. I do know she knows I don't like how my mother and our family was treated at the hall by the majority growing up; she probably thinks it is just a situation where I need new "friends". Don't you love it how JWs will call their congregation "the friends"?
Nina, I never did read your whole searching...I must do some post searching this week
Man , that still frosts me; but I've come down off the ceiling, now.
Over the years, I have basically pulled a variant on the Gopher scenario. It took a while; PM me if you like.
Mustang
Could relate to your frustration. Never been a JW but have relatives that are and even though they don't live close it never ceases to amaze me at how irritatingly persistent they can be!
You trust and welcome them only to be sorry you did.
Okay, I am done my ranting...what is a polite way to tell these guys when they come to the door again to go *%#^ themselves?
Why be polite? I'd tell them to go (#$&%$ themselves!
