How would a JW list in order ... (page 2)

95stormfront

Everything, life decisions, holiday plans, etc are now done without my input, and behind by back - since I might be against it, so obviously justified in their eyes.

Wow ....

Such is the life of a non-JW woman married to a JW male.

This is exactly the situation I found myself in, but reversed. Instead of me and my wife making these plans for ourselves, I found her filtering everything, every plan, life decision, through a WT or Awake magazine, what Brother or sister nosy might say, or around some scheduled WT meeting.

You'll find that that gets old real quick.

Nosferatu

Here's my personal order:

Your own salvation
Wife
non-jw Children
Marriage
Widows & orphans
Jesus
Jehovah
Pleasing your Mother/Father
Watchtower Bible & Tract Society
The Governing Body
Pleasing Elder(s)
acceptance by congregation

The last 7 don't really rank anywhere, they're all sitting at zero.

As for JWs, here's what they would list:

Jehovah
Jesus
Watchtower
Governing Body
pleasing Elders
acceptance by the Congregation
Pleasing mother & father
Marriage
Wife
Widows & orphans
Your own salvation
non-jw wife
non-jw children

stillajwexelder

IMHO

Jehovah

Jesus

Watchtower Bible & Tract Society

The Governing Body

Pleasing Elder(s)

acceptance by congregation

Marriage

Wife if a JW

Your own salvation

Widows & orphans

Wife if NOT a JW

non-jw Children

Pleasing your Mother/Father if not JWs)

wannaexit

am Not a JW - married 20 yrs to a brand new JW and am being constantly told that joining this club is being done for us & our relationship.

At some point the watchtower WILL come between you and your wife. Be careful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wannaexit

As to the list Jw say that Jehovah come first but in reality the governing body come first for most of them.

wannaexit

Room 215

How true, Blondie, about JWs demonizing their non-JW spouses; I wish I had a dime for every time I promised some sister with an unbelieving husband that I would find a pretext to stop by and try to strike up a conversation, that my trepidation (fueled by all the gossip about the guy that I had heard from the JWs, especially from the spouse in question) vanished as the fellow turned out to be a really nice guy.

PurpleV

I think those of you who think dubs put Jesus ahead of the organization are mistaken. Jesus actually counts for very little, he's just an archangel after all. They're not afraid of Jesus... but they sure are afraid of the society.

peacebaby

Will Power - I'm sorry I bent your gender! It might be better if you were a man! Like Blondie said - it's tough on the 'unbelieving' wife - she should be submissive and 'learn quietly'..... It's quite a power trip for some men, hopefully not in your case. In any case, it's not fair that your feelings and opinions aren't being taken into consideration. If you've been researching this for 4 years - you must feel like you've come through a meat grinder, you poor thing! Looks like it's still grinding. I'll be thinking about you.....

pb

2escaped lifers

I am sooo sorry. I misunderstood too. It IS worse you being the wife. Even being raised in it, I still had a hard time swallowing their "BE SUBMISSIVE" crap. My husband and I knew each other for 5 years before we fell in love and got married. We had a wonderful friendship, beyond the love, but that all changed right after we got married. We had fights about the most stupid things!!!! I couldn't even make a suggestion as to where to eat without a discussion on "me knowing my place" or "usurping his headship". It got so bad that I just didn't want to open my mouth so as not to start anything.

We made it 12 years and have now made it OUT together but it was only recently that I found out what had changed. Get this..... The night before our wedding, Mickey Cochran, an elder, pulled Brandon aside and told him that because I was intelligent, and independant, that Brandon would have to "keep a tight rein on me" so as not to allow me to "get out of line". I was furious!!!!! Now we are back to the way it was, but it took LEAVING to make it so.

Obviously, you have posted and read the experiences here. Please know that you have the support of everyone .

(((((((((((((((((WP))))))))))))))))))))))

blondie

Everything done for the individual's own salvation

Jehovah-----Watchtower Bible & Tract Society/Governing Body----- Jesus

| (access to Jesus and God only through WTS)

Pleasing Elder(s)

| (access to WTBS only through elder body)

Acceptance by Congregation----pleasing mother/father (if you are under 18)

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Marriage--JW Husband

Marriage--Non JW Husband

Marriage--JW Wife

Marriage--Non JW Wife

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Non-JW children (minor)

Non-JW children (18+)

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Widows & orphans

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