My best JW's friend baby passed away

Eyebrow2

He was only 5 months and 1 week old...he was not breathing when they woke up on Wednesday, and they tried cpr, but it didnt work.....I am so sad for them. She was the sister that studied with me before I was baptised, and also the best friend I ever had, in or out of the JWs. She moved away from about 4 years ago, and we had only spoken a few times on the phone since then.

A mutual friend of ours called me yesterday morning and told me. They must be devastated, I cannot even imagine. They are in New England, and I am here in Texas...I am hoping to see if I can jumbled some frequent flier miles together to go up there for the service.

I don't there is any way that I can really comfort them, just hug them....if anyone has any suggestions please let me know. a few years ago I would say stuff, like you will see him in paradise, don't loose hope and all that, but I don't believe that anymore, and I won't bring up religous stuff. I am so sad for them, I don't know how they can stand it.

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SixofNine

My sincere condolences to your friend and you. This is heartbreaking.

wannaexit

That is very sad. So sorry for your friend.

I can't imagine loosing a child.

All You can do is be there for her if you can and hug her .

wannaexit

Eyebrow2

It really breaks my heart. It doesn't look like I can go, but I am going to send her a card and call her later next week. One of our mutual friends advised me to wait to call, they are pretty much in seclusion right now...who can blame them.

Sassy

it's a lot harder now to deal with grief. They want their hope of the resurrection on earth and we don't know what the future is any more. It's sad.

Xandria

Eyebrow,

I am sorry to hear this. It is not easy to lose a child or anyone for that matter to death. Just knowing someone cares is a great comfort.

Take Care,

X.

kat2u

4 years ago my daughter lost her son.He was a few days old.A month later my sister in law lost her 3 month old son.

It was hard knowing what to say to encourage either of them.We greived alot together.I do know that one thing that was helpful to us was joining a support group for those greiving.It was very healthful to understand the greiving process,and what to expect along the way.And to be able to openly discuss how we were feeling with others who wern't uncomfortable with discussing it.

My heart aches for them.The pain does never go away but it does become tolerable.I hope this is helpful. kat

Eyebrow2

thank you all....I have been thinking about asking if they are going to join a support group when I call them later in the week.

I know their witness friends will do what they can to comfort them, and since they have that faith it may help a little, but I think a support group would be a good idea too, talking with others that have gone through the same thing. After all, that is why most of us are on this board..

thanks everyone...and for those out there that still pray, please say a prayer for my friends

bebu

Eyebrow, I'm so sorry to hear about this tragedy.

A friend of mine lost her first baby two weeks after my first baby was born. We had gone thru the pregnancies together... Her loss really made me reel.

I think the things you should say to her are the things you've said here: that your heart is breaking for them. And you are at such a loss...

I think that people who are mourning and grieving find that their pain is lessened when they feel the love of their friends; when their own feelings are reflected by those who love them. I think, too, that parents want to be reassured by everyone that their dear child was appreciated and valuable; that the parents are not over-reacting. ...If she gets onto a religious track (don't you bring it up), gently tell her that every child is precious to God, and her child has never left God's hands. Every child simply belongs to God.

I think you have a great idea about the support group. I hope they will consider it.

And I will certainly be praying for your dear friends--and for you and all her family and friends may be there, and may say only things that will help her find real comfort...

bebu

Angharad

So sorry to hear this Eyebrow.

My brother lost a child about 5 years ago, its absolutely devastating , I think the support groups are a good idea if you can raise it.

My best JW's friend baby passed away

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