My late JW dad never shunned me--and i think ( he never told me-)--he was not an elder because this was known in his congregation )
My JW daughter--his grandaughter--shunned him , in real terms--by never visiting him when he lived in a care home half a mile from her. let that sink in. She shunned him , i believe, because she knew he didnt shun me, in fact i visited him most days.
He died 8 years ago. I was his heir, held power of attorney and sole beneficiary. I checked his will for any possible funeral requirements--there were none.
So i arranged a private cremation and told no one else about it. It was a non religious funeral--no speeches--just a minutes silence and that was it. The only persons attending were me, 2 of my friends--both ex jw, and 2 care staff from the care home. It was all over in a few minutes.
I believe funerals are for the living family and friends., and i didnt want any of that cult there.