by El blanko 12 Replies latest jw friends
I'll boil it down to this:
Does an "active male JW" who is married "have the right to stand in the way" of an "inactive and divorced mother-in-law"; by not allowing her daughter (his wife), on the grounds of the divorce and bad association, to see her mother? The mother-in-law was seen with a disfellowshipped person and is now divorced from her husband by secular law.
I hope that makes sense
As far as the society is concerned, do I have a leg to stand...?
At some point, you'll have to set aside the Society's miserly standards and act on moral principles. Why not ask yourself, What's the right thing to do here? Then do it. I don't know enough about the particulars to advise you further, but if you know these people -- especially the hard-headed husband -- well enough to speak your mind, follow your instincts.
nobody has the right to interfere with what people do as long as it is not breaking the law - -the society's view would be -- I am not sure -- maybe one they would write to Brooklyn about
I don't know enough about the particulars to advise you further, but if you know these people -- especially the hard-headed husband -- well enough to speak your mind, follow your instincts.
Well, I don't want to divulge specifics, because I KNOW, that certain JWs scan these boards from time to time and who knows the links back? I could create a hideous problem for all parties involved.
The hard-headed husband is the main problem here. He lives in a world of isolation and makes sure that his wife remains in that world as well. I could pull him up in terms of compassion, but his heart does not appear to respond to such pleadings.
The mother involved is cut to the heart at present.
The mother involved is cut to the heart at present.
Sorry to hear of it, El Blanko. It's too bad the society has sisters shakin' in their boots, afraid of the power of all of the men in their lives. Too bad this sister isn't like me, I'd never have allowed my exhusband and the brothers to tell me I could not speak to my mother under any circumstances.
It's good of you to care and I hope you can help this family.
Heather
Thanks - I haven't made my move yet, but needless to say "I will" at some point. It is a matter of timing. I need to play the snake if you like and slither into the psyche of the abuser here (the husband). There are ways and I can see chinks in his armour. He is so arrogant that he is unaware of the chinks he has on display.
It makes me really sad & angry, as it is totally unnecessary. The mother & daughter should not under any circumstances be cut off from each other. The mother involved nearly lost this child when she was little and the bond is there.
Damn it !
El Blanko,
I think you should see my first post here: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/65717/1.ashx
The mother and daughter were estranged; the situation you are highlighting could very much end up the same way. If it does, I hope the consequences differ drastically. Blood ties should NEVER be separated through shunning, marking, disfellowshipping or disassociating. When, oh when, will the majority wake up to the reality of this hegemonic, lying, cheating, death-dealing organisation!
Ian
Printer's ink is thicker than the blood in my family.
Gary,
Are we related? I think between us we could solve the whole Watchtower caboodle!
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/55493/1.ashx
Ian
Ian, you wrote:
Gary, Are we related?
In many ways we are and I am proud of it. GaryB
