by pudd 93 Replies latest social relationships
Never !!
Obviously, she is trying to make a point, or looking for some attention, that she is not getting. The most effective thing to do, I found, is walk up to her, look her in the eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her tenderly. Within moments, she'll melt, and you have gained your friend.
*Donning jock strap and fake mustache*
IMHO, it's not about equality. It's about maturity. If she hits your first, is he mature enough to keep from hitting back? If he needs to restrain her because she is out of control - that is different. A man must protect himself. But if a man hits and woman simply because she hits him, that makes not just the woman about as mature as a three-year-old, but the man as well. As the old saying goes, "Two Wrongs Don't Make A Right."
*Removes jock strap and fake moustache - runs around looking for clothes. Hey! Who hid them from me?!*
growedup
This brings up an interesting point though. I've been with amny women who take advantage of the fact that we won't hit back, and don't seem to think men feel pain. Women who hit you in the nots and think it's "funny", or slap, or punch and then laugh. or kick you in the shins because you said something that made them "mad". Or used the excuse "I was drunk!, You pissed me off!" I've told each and every one of them, that if it ever happened again, I was out the door. And they were lucky I did'nt knock their asses out. I suspect there are more stories out there like this. Men? And what about our society makes women think it is o.k for them to do this?
*finding only jock strap and mustache and putting them on again*
Puter -
With an attitude like that, you will never want for a woman's love and affection.
growedup
P.S. I just know someone hid my clothes! Is it okay for a woman to hit a man if he has hidden her clothes in a room full of testosterone-crazed men?!
Never !!Obviously, she is trying to make a point, or looking for some attention, that she is not getting. The most effective thing to do, I found, is walk up to her, look her in the eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her tenderly. Within moments, she'll melt, and you have gained your friend.
Would you give this same advice to a woman who has been hit by a man? It sounds an awful lot like the same advice a woman would have been given 50 years ago.
Puter -With an attitude like that, you will never want for a woman's love and affection.
growedup
See? that's what I'm talkin about. It's bullshit. "It's cute, or hormones, or attention when a woman hits a man." Bullshit.
The basic answer is no. If a mate hits the other, then that mate(male of female) has some issues and the other mate needs to distance themselves from the potential violence that could erupt again. I have always supported a woman who sees the need to leave a husband who uses violence. The same goes the other way around.
That being said, there are always exceptions to the rule. If the mate goes berserk and is trying to seriously hurt or kill, then you have to defend yourself. Granted, that is an extreme case, but it happens.
You'll notice that I tried to keep my answer from being gender specific, because I don't think it matters what sex you are if you are having to deal with a violent spouse.
I've never hit a man and I would leave any man who ever hit me, not hit him back. You walk away from violence regardless of gender.
I know a guy who would never hit me. And I know a guy who would. The one who would, will only do so if I hit him first (and when angry) I mean, he never once hit me for kicking him in the crotch ... but then, that was an accident ... really it was
if i were hit, i'd walk away from them and never return. who wants to stay with a partner who see's violence as answer to something?
