Wey-hey
Well, interacting with a real person online for the goal of sexual gratification and looking at porn for the goal of sexual gratification are obviously not the same thing.
You cannot screw a photo! Some people complain that porn reduces women to objects, and they are right (but whether that makes porn wrong is beyond this topic). Someone online, or on the end of a phone line is not an object, they are a person, rather than a sexually stimulating collection of ink or magnetic data.
So, cyber sex is worse than porn. If you disagree, think; would it be cheating if she stroked her prawn whilst panting on the 'phone with some guy next to her husband in bed? Would it be cheating if she got off in the same room as another guy who was getting off, not touching but verbally stimulating each other.
Physical proximity has nothing to do with 'cheating'.
What this guy was doing snooping in his wife's files is a very good question. Whither trust? Maybe she's doing this because she's not happy, maybe he should be more concerned about the fact she needs to sexually interact with other people than about the actual interaction itself.
However, breach of privacy to one side, the fact she changed her password is a bit of a smoking gun. Why?
Easy; guilt. Or perhaps getting ready to step it up and wanting to be able to cover her tracks.
I think the only problem two reasonable people should have is if one of them starts hiding something. My girlfriend knows where my porn is, I know where her's is, we share a lot. But as all is in clear view we don't HAVE to feel a need to snoop as we don't feel left out, even if we never trawl through the stuff.
Other people might want to be more private, sort of don't ask don't tell.
But actively trying to hide something stinks. Relationships are about sharing and accepting. If you can't share because you know it won't be accepted, either you or the other person are in the wrong.
Simplistic but true.
By the time something has reached the point this unhappy couple have reached it's normally a sign of serious problems.
