Do on-line dating services really work? (page 2)

yxl1

A good friend of mine uses them often and has had a lot of success. Normally in the region of 2-3 a month with at least two of them giving out on the first date. He's kinda smitten with one at the moment (as she looks like a young Debbie harry) so he's kinda giving it all a rest

BeautifulGarbage

least two of them giving out on the first date

Does this mean the same thing as "putting out" in the US?

joenobody

Hey Elsewhere - bingo on the "few extra pounds". I like a girl with some curves, but it was pretty typical that most girls would be one category higher in body type than they said.

Also, I would strongly recommending chatting only a short time before meeting. You can build up too much of a preconceived notion about the person otherwise. Also I would suggest not planning "dates" but simple meetings for coffee in a public place. This makes for a short and sweet first meeting on a fairly relaxed setting, without setting up an elaborate date where you've made a commitment to spend hours with someone you might not be into within seconds of meeting face-to-face. When you meet for coffee, after 15 minutes you can either politely excuse yourself and thank them for the meeting, or if there was a spark, suggest at that time to either duck out and go do something or make plans for a "real" date.

Sassy

Also, I would strongly recommending chatting only a short time before meeting. You can build up too much of a preconceived notion about the person otherwise

that is true.. a protection for both sides..

two reasons. If one is not for real, you aren't investing too much time but also if one of you do not like the other one, it is less of a let down for the other individual if they haven't had a chance yet to "FALL HARD" for you.. ...

joenobody

Excellent reasons Sassy...

Nosferatu

HOWEVER.. if you meet someone through a personal service, if you are smart, you take the time to get to know them before meeting in person

I have to disagree with this. Here's my take on Online Dating....

First of all, I don't recommend it. I also don't recommend talking to a girl on the phone for hours before meeting them. What seems to happen without actually physically meeting someone, they start to imagine what this person is like in real life. Then when the two actually meet up, they discover their expectations were too high and it creates an awkwardness during the meeting. A phone or internet relationship (romantic or non) is much different from a real life relationship. That's why if you meet someone over the phone or the internet, it's good to get the first meeting done as soon as possible before the other gets used to having a phone or internet relationship. The longer someone dwells on their thoughts, the more they expect their thoughts to match up to reality.

If you meet a person for the first time in real life, you're presented with the whole package immediately. There's much less awkwardness on the first date because you've already met in person, you know what the other looks like, how they dress, present themselves, their body language, etc. I'd rather buy a TV in one piece than buy it piece by piece.

However, if you're going to be internet dating, here's some more suggestions. When you make your profile, make it stand out. Make it wacky & funny, not romantic & sweet. You're competing agains hundreds of other guys, and you need to stand out. A picture will get you more results. Meet her in person as soon as possible so you don't waste your time on some ugly hag.

Remember, meeting women in real life gives you looks first, personality second. It's also free. Why should you pay money to be forced to look for single women when you can do it for free, using the gift of gab that you've been given for free. All you have to do is filter out what you don't want, and what's not available. If you go out and try it, you'll be surprised at how many single women are out there - and it doesn't cost a cent.

joenobody

Nos, exactly my point as well - meet as soon as possible to "keep it real". Use the phone or internet to do some early "filtering" but get to know each other in person in a low stress environment.

Sassy

you guys are right.. I guess I meant more in don't run and meet them in a week is all...

because of all the psychos out there....

(Sassy, the chick who has been talked into meeting men only hours later)

Xena

Ditto on the meeting quickly and meeting at a coffee shop or bookstore for the first date! A lot less ackward...

Also watch out for blurry pictures or ones from very far away.....women aren't the only ones that fudge on their "stats"...most of the men I met seemed to lie about their height or age.....it isn't all about physical but I figure if they will lie about that stuff to score a date they will probably lie about other stuff....

Welcome to the wonderful world of internet dating bradley

Maverick

Been there, done that! Rule is three or four E-mails then meet. Nos is right about not wasting time chatting for hours before you meet. Set up a coffee date, stay 15 or 20 minutes then leave. I've done a bunch of these, most ladies lie, lie, lie!

I found there are four basic types on the net.

Type one: Total, off the wall, wack jobs!

Type two: Liars. Everything they tell you is a lie. Their; age, weight, marital status, prison record!

Type three: Cyber Circe, an enchantress interested in keeping you captive and away from any meaningful relationship.

Type four: The honest lady that is sick of sports bars, set-ups and blind dates.

And you have to get to the type fours before they are taken or get burned and run away!

Maverick

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