by Puternut 31 Replies latest jw friends
Sounds like it will solve many a dilema. Not the least of which is that you won't be bothered with those pesky NW apostates anymore!
What does Octavia think of this plan? I know you'll miss your girls, perhaps they'll travel with you?
Six~ cornstarch class
Your kids? How about your kids?
Puter -
My first thought was the same as jgnat's in relation to your kids. I know things are tough right now with them, but is there a way you can keep in touch with them while you are gone, or fly them to meet you on some island or something? If there is no way for them to make contact with you for any reason, I fear you may regret your decision if something were ever to come up. Additionally, the worry-wart in me is concerned about you making such a HUGE decision at a time in your life while things are so unstable. When things are like this, it is not always the best time to make decisions that can affect us for the rest of our lives. Is there a compromise you could come up with to help you clear your head in the present, but keep your (business) future intact? Could you charter a boat and sail through the Caribbean for a few weeks or take a secluded trip away from all the rain for a while? It might help you clear your head and decide if "sailing away" is the right choice for you. If it isn't - no harm done - if it is - it will only make you more sure that this is the right path for you to follow.
That said, I'm so envious that you have that choice right now. Very few people ever get to make a choice like this. Please let us know what you decide.
growedup
LOL, you are not in my part of that dream!!
Well, to begin with, I found this amusing "small, ocean worthy, sailing vessel. About 55 footer is plenty". Small is under 40 foot. The big question is what size you want to handle with how much crew.
You're right about the GPS, there are plenty of new gadgets to know where you are. Also, there is e-mail via satilite. So the girls can keep in touch with you. Especially at ports that are up to date.
I recommend getting "Sail" magazine, "Cruising" magazine and listen to other people's experiences. Better yet, enjoy browsing their web pages. here's one http://www.bwsailing.com/ Or you can jump right in and get a boat and sail off. Either way, its your learning experience.
Just keep up to date with the latest laws out there. And if you ever get to Florida, we'll welcome you on our "small" 32' sloop. We are currently going through classes so that one day we, too will be sailing the Carribean. Fun group of people, sailers.
Joy
I have considered my kids. I had a visit with them a few weeks back, and they made it abundantly clear that they didn't want to visit with me anymore, unless I get reinstated. They are both baptized, and have made their stand. I couldn't comment on that, at that time, since I didn't want to break their hearts with the fact, that that is not an option. They don't mind an occasional letter or call, but no more visits. Needless to say, that was another motivating factor in my decision to leave the area. Where ever I land, Marquesas Isands, Bora Bora, or Tonga, I can contact them from there.
growedup, I appreciate your thought about giving it a try in the Caribbean first, but I have been there done that, and the call of the ocean is very strong, once you have tasted it. The breeze of the wind, the salt spray of the bow in your face is very theraputic. Being on the ocean and heading for the new horizons, is a thrill that is in my veins.
I know there are problems and obstacles in life anywhere you go. And I am not saying that this is a solution to my problems, but I have always wanted to do this and now I possibly can. In my current position, recently divorced, no more friends, all family are dubs, and a lot of heartbreak, I just feel the need to regroup in my life. Yes I know Octavia as a friend, and she is very sweet, and we hang out, but I am not in a position to remarry real soon. I have been married for 25 years and I am single now. And before, IF, I settle down and do that, I want to make my dream come true. I may never have this opportunity again.
As a matter of fact, I am meeting with codeblue this weekend in Seattle. I am thinking about doing some initial boat shopping at one of the marina's. I am still in the planning stages, and lots can change. But if I play my cards right, and plan everything carefully, I should be able to leave within about 8-9 months or so.
Puternut
I just can't get this thought out of my head, and I am in a prime position to do this. It's extremely bold and scary, but at the same time adventurous, exciting and challenging. I want to sell everything I own, and live on my boat
Well, sounds like you do have the 'itch'. Why don't you test the waters (excuse the pun), and come down to Southern California or go to Floriday. Rent a boat for a month or two to see if you like it (do they have lease to own in the sailing world?). Just a thought.
Check you PM....
Go forth and conquer Puternut! May the wind always be behind your sails and the sea calm at night. Happy sailing! Cathy L.
Puternut, you ARE in a prime position. I say go for it. Even if it's a short stint - 6 months or less. At least you can say you tried it, no regrets right? Regarding your kids? They will miss you no matter what their stance on your congregational status. If you have loved them unconditionally this whole time, they will remember that. They will seek you out before you know it. I DO recommend touching base with them (via handwritten letter - it's very personal and they can keep it and reread it over and over) before you leave. Let them know how to get in touch with you in an emergency.
Blessings and godspeed!
Andi
Dear Puternut:
Oh, how you and Mr. CB are so alike....When we meet this weekend, you both will have plenty to discuss (don't forget about me...lol)...your scenarios are quite similar.
I say: Go for the change....It will do you a "world" of good...(sorry for the pun) and there is nothing worse to feel empty and cold. Sounds exciting...and just get it all planned (your safety is a MUST)...It sounds like a very kewl adventure!!!
Looking forward to meeting you and Octavia this weekend!!!
Take care,
Codeblue
I understand wanting to have sunshine and warmth...I have lived the last 25 years in US southern states...I am freezing here...There is nothing worse than going thru a divorce or major life change and freezing at the same time...HINT: Keep a beach picture as a screen saver until you set sail....kinda works for me!!!
Codeblue
