I know it's out of character, but I have a sex question for the ladies... (page 4)

tink

mean? All that testosterone is affecting your spelling!!

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ps personally, every last one of my boyfriends has been skinny; as long as dude weighs more than i do i'm good.

ApagaLaLuz

Personally, I prefer a meatier man, someone with a little something to hold on too (no pun intended) . But I have been attracted to "scrawny" men. For me it mostly has to do with personality

I actually didn't use to like guys with a muscular build... until I dated a guy who looked like Denzel Washington and worked out daily.. I must admit he did look hot.. so I learned to appreciate a good build..

however it isn't a requirement for me to be either turned on or attracted to a man.

Nosferatu

Some excellent answers here!

For me, sex has nothing to do with looks. It's all about how I'm treated and how a man makes me feel.

You'll find that's the norm with women. Looks don't really do much when it comes to attracting women. Ever look at a couple and say to yourself, "Why is she with that fat, ugly slob?" Looks are way down the list, it's personality that is #1. If a man knows how to push a woman's attraction buttons, he's got it made.

About a week ago, I was flipping through a Maxim magazine. They found the secret to attracting women - having a great body!!!! I couldn't help but laugh. They were going with the fact that women know within seconds if she'll sleep with a man, and first impression is the most important, which may be true, but a lot of guys seem to think that women think the same way as men (men thrive on looks, women thrive on emotion). Hell, I'm not in shape, but I had no problem attracting women once I knew what the secret was.

This doesn't mean that working out does nothing. I did it when I was in high school, and it really makes you feel better about yourself. That's about all it adds up to. Most women don't really give a damn about how a guy looks.

FlyingHighNow

Most women don't really give a damn about how a guy looks.

What is important to most women is that a particular guy be attractive to them personally. He doesn't have to be attractive to anyone else. And what makes a guy attractive to a woman is going to be based more on who he really is and what kind of air he gives off. This is why I am saying think about how you come across to women. You can be the most handsome, muscular guy, but it you are obnoxious you're not going to be attractive.

Heather

DanTheMan

Women love a confident man, which probably explains my lack of success.

Bradley, I too get on exercise kicks that ultimately don't go anywhere, so you're not alone. I only weigh about 133 pounds, so I've got a case of the "little man syndrome" methinks. I've wondered if I would feel better about myself if I gained about 8 to 10 pounds of muscle, but that is not an easy thing to do!

galaxy7

The mans personality and character are whats important to me

asleif_dufansdottir

I admit, I'm shallow. Guys who are muscular (not body builders, but muscular) are hot. I especially like to see muscular abs. But don't forget the importance of a nice muscular butt! We ladies like the implied promise of a nice muscular butt.

And I'm totally hypocritical cause I'm a fat, middle-aged lady!

Now, this does not mean that I would only want to date guys who have 6 (or 8) packs. Personality and the way they treat you is much more important than looks, for an actual relationship.

Muscular guys are often not so great in the personality department, but then, that's not what eye candy is for.

simplesally

Nice shape, not fat, not muscular................just someone who loves to be with you. Someone who cares about you and himself.

Robdar

As far as physical appeal goes, I prefer a man who has toned muscles. Not some big hulking guy or somebody with abs. Just some definition. But I have dated all kinds of men with all sorts of body types and have been able to find them sexy--in their own way.

However, what really turns me on is intelligence. I like those big brains. It doesn't matter what body type they come in.

Robyn

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