Hi,sorry to hear about your mother.
the important thing is to visit alot so that the staff sees you are watching out for her.
I worked many years in nursing homes I wish i was near to give you a hand
Update on my Mom's stroke.
by El Kabong 15 Replies latest jw friends
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CountryGuy
El Kabong,
I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. I know it had to rip your heart out to put her in the nursing home. My mother-in-law had two strokes about three years ago. She lost complete control over her left side. We had no choice but to put her in a home. We found an excellent home with one of the best physical therapists in West Texas. When she went in, she couldn't sit up or eat anything that wasn't pureed (sp?). After a couple of months, she started applying herself to the therapy. About six months after that she began walking. Today, she lives on her own again.
The best thing you can do is be there as often as you can. Take her out when you can. Encourage her. And above all, remind her how much you love her. (These are things you're already doing, I know.) The nurses told us that the stroke patients they get that improve the most are those who have a lot of support from the family. Also, see if there is a support group for family members. We found this extremely helpful for us. Of course, if there isn't one there, you can always count on us for support.
My heart and support go out to you and your family.
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Hi El K,
Sorry to hear of your mothers problems, but if she feels like I do about her kids, she had rather be in a nursing home than be a burden on them and take over their lives. As long as you go by to see her when possible, I think she will be happier there. Just check on the personnel to be sure they treat her decently.
Ken P.
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cruzanheart
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Take care!
Nina
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pc
Hi El K,
My heart goes out to you. I went through it with my mom (who has since passed away). One thing I can tell you is even though they may not seem to be responding many stroke victims are 100% competent. When I use to visit my mom in the nursing home after her stroke I was never sure if she or other people knew what was going on. I then read a book called "The Diving Bell and the Butterfly". It was written by Jean-Dominique Bauby, he was the french editor of Elle magazine. He had a stroke at 43 and seemed completely in a vegetable state. He ended up dictating the book by blinking his left eye with a alphabet he made up. Absolutely incredible!! So even though people may seem unaware they can have complete understanding and competency. Just keep that in mind, because it helps so much when you talk and really interact with them. My prayers really go out to you and your mom. PC
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acsot
El Kabong, I'm sorry you had to face that terrible decision about putting your mum in a nursing home. We do everything we can humanly accomplish and yet we still feel guilty. Damn emotions.
I know you'll visit her often, and there will probably be improvement in her speech and mobility. And make some time for yourself every day to unwind, even if it's just 15 minutes or so.
My thoughts are with you.