...has Already Committed Adultery

by YoursChelbie 17 Replies latest jw friends

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  YoursChelbie

  Here's my thoughts on why Jesus said:

  "..it was said, 'You must not commit adultery.' But I say to you that everyone who keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." --Mt. 5:27.28

  Isn't it true that most married men (or women for that matter) have at least briefly thought of having an affair? Why is the thought here equated to the act? Is it because our actions follow what our deep-seated desires are? Was Jesus merely making a hyperbole to illustrate how easily our desires-- when allowed to grow---can become reality kind of like a self-fulfilling prophesy?

  Well, now that we are out of the JW religion, How does your individual conscience kick into action and actually keep you from engaging in something that will later result in grief, sadness and regret?

  If "the borg" doesn't shape your conscience anymore, what does?

  YoursChelbie
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  Badger

  I seem to remember on WT that said thinking about it wasn't so bad...that was a natural sinful reaction. But Dwelling on it was what made it adultery.
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  outoftheorg

  COMMON SENSE DOES IT FOR ME. I TRY TO AVOID DOING THINGS THAT WILL HURT MY FAMILY OR FRIENDS. OR ME.

  IF YOU LIKE YOUR NEST-DON'T CRAP IN IT.

  Outoftheorg
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  czarofmischief

  The hand of God Almighty.

  CZAR
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  seedy3

  The only thing that keeps me from engaging in this terrible, discusting sin is my wife when she says I can't, but when she says I can the WHOOOO HOOOOOO, and she says I can quite often

  Seedy
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  Love_Truth

  Good question.

  IMHO, Jesus meant that if we kept dwelling on an adulterous liaison, there's a good chance it will happen, just like anything else we dwell on.

  What do I do to prevent this?

  1)- I picked a mate very carefully, making sure we are both very attracted to one another and that we have compatible sex drives and views.

  2)- I still use the Bible as my moral compass, and I know it teaches that we won't inherit God's Kingdom if we practice adultery. (1 Cor 6:9,10)

  That's my two cents.
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  Sassy

  I'm in my rebellious teenage just got out phase.. I haven't denied myself much yet....
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  Sunnygal41

  How does your individual conscience kick into action and actually keep you from engaging in something that will later result in grief, sadness and regret?

  Common sense, and, hard earned experience!
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  Sara Annie

  I do not commit adultery out of my deep love, and respect for, my husband. I believe in passionate monogamy and my marriage has an abundance of it. :) My body and all the pleasures it can experience (and bring!) are mine to share with the man I have committed to spending my life with, and only with him. I can't imagine having sex with anyone else. He told me when we were engaged that the only thing that would entice him to leave our marriage would be if I were unfaithful to him--I admit that if he were ever unfaithful to me that I honestly don't know if I could ever forgive him either.

  That is not to say that neither of us appreciate the attributes of other people...I don't think it's hateful or unnatural for people to notice attractive people and respond sexually to them, that's human nature. Men are, by nature, visual creatures and I know that there are other women in the world that my husband will find attractive--I also know that every night (and day for that matter) it is my attributes that turn him on like no one else.

  Sex is a natural, pleasurable, and even spiritual experience. It is something that isn't to be regulated by a bunch of old men making rules based on 2000 year old stories. Religion is to blame for making sex evil, ugly and dirty.
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  drawcad_1

  A person?s conscience can be tied into a biblical code as the JW?s have done. That way they can all look at a subject and have a clear-cut answer. Once, you get away from them you must apply another set of morals, one that takes into account the other person. I would not commit adultery for the reason that I would not want to hurt my wife or family. Also, there are long-term issues that a person must consider. I made choices when I settled down and started a family, I am happy that I made them and will deal with the consequences.

  Do I lust after other women and look at other women. I am a guy, but please read through the first part of my post again.