Stop! Where are you going?

by Maverick 24 Replies latest social relationships

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  seeitallclearlynow

  got my forty homey? - I'm not a smart aleck or know it all, just would like to be helpful, as I would hope someone would try to help me if possible - so I just checked out "gout" in google search and it came up with a lot of ideas that claim to really help. I guess you've already tried everything there? It says tart cherry juice REALLY helps and detoxing (general detox - not talking about drugs! :-) really helps get the uric acid down and out.

  Mentions to stay away from alcohol and a lot of animal and other proteins and many other foods too. Says high blood pressure makes it worse, etc. So have you already looked into all of this?

  Just my 2 cents. Hope you feel better!!!!!!!!! ((((got my forty homey)))
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  got my forty homey?

  Done the charcoal cleansing, I take blood pressure medication, tried the cherry extracts, herbs, so I figure I'll just head over to the pain medication. It has two positives, it takes the pain away and I get get high!

  I know the alcohol is bad, but I've given up so mush other things I need something to entertain myself.

  I think the major culprit is the cold weather here Upstate NY. The cold is very bad for gout. But i still have 20 years to go for a pension with my city job.
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  seeitallclearlynow

  Gotcha got my forty homey! I know what you mean - and I wish you very well! See ya around the board!
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  Maverick

  I was thinking this morning....I know, I know...but sometimes I just can't help myself!...Anyway, I was thinking about how little response this topic got. I do appreciate everyone who took the time to reply, but you will admit if I was bitching about something...er...like the lack of responses....This topic would have gone for two or more pages! I have had some horrible things happen in my life, and have had times when I was ready to end it all, but a few people always seemed to step in and pull me back from the brink. And with time I learned to look up instead of down. That said, there are days when I walk out my front door and step right in a pile of doggie do, but I tell myself that this is just one instance and not the sum of the day. That doggie do is the past and not the future. And as Tony Robbins says the past does not equal the future. It is all about adjusting ones outlook. Using that little voice in your head to tell you good things instead of always beating you up. Learning to be your own friend. Want to attract other to yourself, learn to at least like yourself. How do people expect others to like them when it is plain for all to see that they loath themselves? Maverick

  PS this way of thinking is so different from what the WTS teaches. The WTS teach that we are terrible, weak, sinners who will only get worse if we don't submit to them. Are you going to let them get away with that?!!!
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  Love_Truth

  got my forty homey,

  Sorry to hear about your pain! I hope there's something that can be done to help you out with it (I guess the pain pills work for now). Good to see you're dealing with it well.

  Avishai,

  LOL!! I love that song, too (among many others). I never saw the movie you referred to, but I remember litening to that song when I had just left the JWs, divorced my wife, lost my family (that's turning around recently), and I remeber lying in bed with my Girlfreind, I got really choked up listening to that song. It just made me realize the absolute truth- It's all about Loving, and being loved in return.JWs simply DO NOT know what love is, period. Conditional "love" is not love. Nowadays, when I listen to that song, I smile, because I've learned that lesson.

  Maverick,

  Your second post is so true! I do so a tendency to dwell on the negative here on JWD (at least many of those posts get the most replies). Your words reminded me of a post I'd read quite some time ago, which I think might be helpful to those who are "down in the dumps":

  Unhappy? Depressed?

  Well, obviously if you're really bad off you should really talk to a professional, but as long as you're not contemplating any ugly irreversible acts, here's something that might help.

  Think of someone you know that seems pretty happy about life. How would you describe their attitude? Are they kidding themselves? Are they ignoring the ugly truth about life that's right in front of their eyes and pretending that some happy fantasy world that exists only in their heads is real? Well, guess what. That is exactly how every happy person in the world acts. And the really strange thing is that it's OK. Because the reason that you are unhappy is that you have constructed a fantasy world just as complete and just as removed from the "facts" as the Pollyanna imaginings that you so despise in those happy people.

  Reality is in fact neither good nor bad, it is a very plastic inkblot sort of thing that can be bent and twisted in many directions depending on your beliefs. WHAT! you say? What about THE TRUTH? Well, that's a complicated question and it gets into the meaning of life bit that we haven't gotten to yet, but suffice it to say that what is REALLY going on is so strange, so complex, and so far beyond our everyday understanding, that it bears no relationship to what you think of as "reality", "truth", or "reason". Good and bad, happy and sad, these are notions that you are imposing on the world around you...

  The answer to unhappiness is both liberating and infuriating, but here it is. Happiness doesn't depend on anything that has or has not happened in the past, nor does it depend on your future prospects (thank God, eh?). The simple fact is, in order to be happy:

  You Must Decide to be Happy.

  Yep. Isn't that aggravating? You can't blame it on anyone else, and no one else can do a thing for you. You've just got to decide to be happy, whether or not your logical mind thinks it is rational to be happy and whether or not your moral sense thinks you deserve to be happy. You absolutely will not be happy for any length of time until you decide to, and if you decide to, you can be happy in the face of the most miserable circumstances.

  Happy deciding.

  source: http://users.aristotle.net/~diogenes/unhappy.htm
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  redbull

  Hi all

  Thanx for the original post, Maverick, it really cheered me up. Its so true what you said. We all take the little things in life for granted. We shouldnt. If we are not happy with ourselves, then how can we enhance the lives of people around us?? We cant. I really like this JW girl, and I've noticed that she puts herself down to much. Shes gorgeous but thats besides the point. She says things like "I hate my hands", and always puts herself down. Its so sad to see someone feel and believe that way. Of course, I tell her shes not but she doesnt listen. Damn WTS!

  Just thought I'd add my two pennys worth. Everyone should always try and be happy with themselves - however hard things get. Lifes too short not to.
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  freedom96

  Well said Maverick!
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  Winston Smith :>D

  Mav,

  I consider myself generally positive person.

  But lately I find it easy to get down with all of the things happening in my life as I adapt from being a dub to being a normal 'worldly' person.

  It's tough at times.

  Thanks for the reminder of what is important. I really enjoyed your post and the positive vibes

  Paul
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  talesin

  maverick

  A good reminder!

  As JWs, we were taught that the only real happiness was to be found in the future - A PARADISE EARTH - the only purpose of NOW was preaching.

  Therefore, the simple advice of 'live in the moment' becomes more complex for people who learned only to look to the future for happiness.

  Many of us need to be reminded that the future is NOW! Life is here and now, not in some vague paradisaical future world.

  L_T - good thoughts

  homey - I have gout - very painful when it flares up. Not an easy road, my friend ...

  thanks,

  talesin
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  SheilaM

  Maverick: How true even when I was depressed I tried to love my life like my writing moment to moment. Now, I am just so friggin happy. Thunder is more of a pessimist but I always teach him to look at the good things.

  Gotmy40H: My Father in law had bad gout but after his weight loss his is much better. You might want to look at the SeaSilver post I did too. Might help.