by Maverick 92 Replies latest social relationships
My daughter will grow up to be like her mom....able to take care of herself. And if and when she decides to be with a man, it will be because she WANTS to be, not because she NEEDS to be.
And if a man perfers a hispanic woman because he wants a doting mama, then they are more than welcome to him! lol I prefer a men who wants to be my equal not my MASTER.
PS I don't have problems getting men...or keeping the ones that are worth MY time.
Maverick,
I have a 12 year old daughter and I can relate to what you are saying. Some kids are very priveledged and as parents it becomes our "charge" to teach them that not all of their peers are as priveldged; and life in general will not give them anything.
We have some strict regulations with our kids and are trying to teach them some responsiblity. Easier said than done. The trips to Paris ( in our case, Italy) have been lined up; as rewards for good grades and "accomplishments". College is expected; and we are "grooming" for certain goals. To date; we have reached them.
My wife and I have a "reward" system set up, and so far it seems to work.
I do agree with you, by and large, the current generation ( children of Baby boomers) are a privledged group.
Frank
I spoil my children too,,,,,,,,,like someone said, many women on this board where abused ,in many ways, or just neglected. Being a JW daughter,,,,,,,,,I always felt being a son would have made my father happier . Every meeting they talked about the sons, not the daughters much at all. Later on it seems they tried to add "daughters' to make them feel included......., as they did saying Brothers AND Sisters at the conventions , instead of just Brothers!
I am raising my daughter to be independant, she can marry if she wants, but I will be giving that man the third degree that is for sure.
I read an article in Marie Claire....woman's magazine that always has an article about women in other countries , their lives and hardships.
One story was about women in Afganastan, who were so unhappy , so abused by their husbands, mother in laws,,,,,( they usually all lived in one house) that the young brides would pour kerosene on themselves and light themselves up.
There were soooo many in the hospital for this,,,,,and many of them lived a few days and died. The women did this over minor things, like short circuiting a new tv, motherinlaw telling her the dish wasnt clean enough, being put down for every and anything.
Some are blaming the Western civilazation on the reason these women are having their eyes opened that they should not be treated that way. The article said that they are making satilite dishes out of soda cans to receive more TV channels that show how American women, and in other countries as well, have so much freedom and how they are treated by men.
But things are still the same in their world,,,,even thou it is a crime to beat your wife there, the men are hardly ever prosecuted or it is never reported.
It is sad that these women see how they should not be treated , and they are doing something about it,,,,,,,but it is to themselves. It is really sad that they would rather burned themselves , suffer the excruciating pain if they survive a few days, and then they die. So very young too.
Didnt mean to make this post a downer ,,,,,,,but I am glad that we are treating our daughters like the precious princesses they are.
By doing this , they will not be so sad, so dependant on what others think they should be, they will be able to stand up for themselves without doing the things the women in Afganastan are doing.
More power to all the Dad's out there who are "spoiling" their little angels.....Mom's too,,,,after all we only have them to spoil before they venture out into the world to be independant. I hope that my kids will still be around me when they grow up, but I do want them to see the world, experience it all.
Well Mav, at least you know who is to blame.
I was never spoiled. I started helping pay the house payment as a teen. I began helping with the younger siblings at 11. I learned how to cook a roast or a chicken in elementary school and I never had to go to Europe to do so.
Mav, you're a good guy but, you need to let her learn about the hardships of life. No matter how much it pains you or her and, it will hurt you more than her, you do. I used to curse my parents and promise to never speak to them again but, I learned a hell of alot from them. Don't coddle your daughter. You'll hurt her in the long run if you do.
I wish you and her nothing but the best.
~Aztec
I remember my sister being a daddy's girl... he spoiled her completely. I remember how at the beginning of every school year he would give her several hundred dollars to buy whatever cloths and assesories she wanted. She was allowed to shop buy herself or with friends. I was later sent to the discount stores with my mom... i was never allowed to buy name-brand cloths. I could only buy the off-brand items that were on the sale rack.
I always got the scraps left over by my sister.
At 16, bought her a car. At 17, took her on a trip to Hawaii and then on to Australia. Let her have free run of the house while I am gone...all summer for the last three years. This Spring, 17 days across Europe. She even has her own seperated section of the house, with her own entrance so she can entertain friends without bothering me at the other end of the house.
Maverick- will you adopt me pleeaasseee?
XW
This sounds more like our children are spoiled. I was reading an article how parents today do not want their children to lack the things they did when they were growing up. So their children have the things their parents can afford for them. The problem is that these children have no clue about the work and sacrifice the parents have made. Too many want to live economically at the age of 19 or 20 the way their parents have only after years of working.
Boys and girls are growing up without knowing the cost of the playthings their parents provide.
Blondie
*shoving XW out of the way*
*batting eyes* I want to be your daughter. Got another wing in the house for me???? LOL
But what about me???? *** Lip starting to quiver ***
Mav..
*shoving Joy and XW out of the way*..... Hell, I'm a guy and I want to be your daughter!!
mac
