For those of you who have been here for a long time and have supported so many people, I'm sure you've dealt with this and are probably sick of the topic.
Actually, no. I used to deal with people who have just broken up on a day to day basis. I actually enjoy giving advice in this area!
I don't know if it's the person I still miss or the relationship (which was not what it should have been).
It's probably a combination of things. The feelings you get when you're with this person, the things you used to do together, the patterns you used to have because of him, etc. There's a lot that comes with a relationship. It's almost a complete change of lifestyle. Now that it's been removed, you have an incredibly empty feeling. Change is something that is quite difficult to handle.
Do ya'll think maybe Jah's punishing me for getting into it in the first place? It is why I was df'd.
Jehovah has nothing to do with relationships. You've been told that everything happens because of either Jehovah or Satan. The truth is things happen because of the way humans react to things or people. This is something that you'll have to learn. First, let's deal with the relationship. Believe it or not, there is a science to the whole dating thing.
So now I bring you my prescription to getting over a relationship! What you need to do is get used to the fact that you're life has changed. You might not want to face this right away, but the sooner the better. You need to get a sense of "moving on".
- If you're absolutely devastated by this relationship ending, take a week off work and use it to mope and sob. Let it all out.
- Next, go out and REBOUND. It's not necessarily going to make you feel any better, but it'll give you a sense of "moving on". You're going to be single anyway, so you might as well start now.
- Then, go out and get yourself some new clothes, a new hairstyle (or color), a new piercing, or even a tattoo. Do something that changes your physical appearance. This will help you feel like a new person going down a new path of life (which it is).
- Take some time to spend with your friends. Keep on the lookout for other guys you might want to date. Take advantage of opportunities that arise. Avoid relationships for a while and just date.
The sooner you work on moving on, the sooner things are going to heal. Good luck!
I also have to add: before you get yourself into another relationship, deal with the leftovers from the JW religion. I suggest you read some stuff on http://www.freeminds.org